So where to start. A couple of years ago I was the breadwinner but we both worked. I got laid off and my wife became the breadwinner, found out she was pregnant, I went back to school and worked part time 30 hours a week, while she did the full career. I took care of all the meals, a lot of the cleaning, pretty much all the shopping, as much of the child care as possible. After all she was the breadwinner. That being said, I did start to get a bit irritatable. We never saw each other, I felt overworked and she was wanting to be a stay at home mom so she was a bit resentful.
Fast forward she’s pregnant again (not planned) I found a better paying job and now we can afford to have her at home, so she quit her career. I still do all that I did before and work 40 plus at a stressful job. We talked recently and she told me I have unrealistic expectations of her. I can’t reply, I really can’t. I really feel like why can’t you do what I did, or come close. That being said I am the more active of the two of us and just more efficient at multitasking. Add into that I have a wife who’s willing to have sex but has no libido. That’s not an exaggeration, it doesn’t exist
I can’t help but feel like I’ve signed up for a life of indentured servitude. I love my wife but I need some perspective and advice. Help?
Fast forward she’s pregnant again (not planned) I found a better paying job and now we can afford to have her at home, so she quit her career. I still do all that I did before and work 40 plus at a stressful job. We talked recently and she told me I have unrealistic expectations of her. I can’t reply, I really can’t. I really feel like why can’t you do what I did, or come close. That being said I am the more active of the two of us and just more efficient at multitasking. Add into that I have a wife who’s willing to have sex but has no libido. That’s not an exaggeration, it doesn’t exist
I can’t help but feel like I’ve signed up for a life of indentured servitude. I love my wife but I need some perspective and advice. Help?