Can anyone here help me to understand what is going on with people and friendships? It seems that more and more, people are just not interested and do not reciprocate.
Old friendships - I have some friends that I grew up with over 30 years ago and to me the history there is gold and I value them a lot, but I do not seem to matter much to them anymore. For years and years I have put in massive effort with keeping the friendship alive with visiting them (on the other side of the world), emailing, phone calls, Facebook, sending gifts... They just do not reciprocate and the whole thing is one-sided. Why is this? I just cannot get my head around it and it hurts a lot.
Trying to develop new friendships - I have made effort over the years to develop new friendships, but people just do not seem interested. For example, I recently asked a guy from Church to join me for dinner and a movie. He said he would think about it and never got back to me. When I invited him out with me, I was pretty flexible with movie and food choices too.
I have had bad experience after bad experience with trying to make friends or reconnect with old friends. Christians seem to be the worst with this (sad to say). Churches seem to be so cliquey and excluding too (we have tried a number of Churches and they all seem to be the same).
Can anyone here give me some ideas or share their thoughts?
Old friendships - I have some friends that I grew up with over 30 years ago and to me the history there is gold and I value them a lot, but I do not seem to matter much to them anymore. For years and years I have put in massive effort with keeping the friendship alive with visiting them (on the other side of the world), emailing, phone calls, Facebook, sending gifts... They just do not reciprocate and the whole thing is one-sided. Why is this? I just cannot get my head around it and it hurts a lot.
Trying to develop new friendships - I have made effort over the years to develop new friendships, but people just do not seem interested. For example, I recently asked a guy from Church to join me for dinner and a movie. He said he would think about it and never got back to me. When I invited him out with me, I was pretty flexible with movie and food choices too.
I have had bad experience after bad experience with trying to make friends or reconnect with old friends. Christians seem to be the worst with this (sad to say). Churches seem to be so cliquey and excluding too (we have tried a number of Churches and they all seem to be the same).
Can anyone here give me some ideas or share their thoughts?