To keep a long story short, my life is much of Benjamin's. Always sheltered. Extremely sheltered, even. Wherever my parents went, I was at. I couldn't really go over to friends houses, I couldn't have other friends over, and well...I think you guys get the point. I've been under lock and key for the past 20 years. So obviously, I haven't done much at all out on my own even though I'm almost 22 now. Not even go to college. I've always wanted to...."break out" if that makes sense. I feel suffocated mainly, because even though my parents have me under such lock and key, I don't have any emotional connection to my parents. They are very hostile towards me most of the time, and when I go through very trying times (Like being bullied, going through break ups, finding out I have mental illnesses) my dad brushes them off and/or laughs at me and my mom ignores the entire conversation or says I am fine and just don't pray hard enough. I've always wondered why they are so disconnected, and I've never gotten an answer.
Anyways, recently, a fight broke out that actually resulted in my mom telling me to leave the house by the end of the month. She later took it back, but by then I had already found a new place to stay. And honestly....I wanted to leave anyways but they weren't allowing me. To stay with grandparents, with friends, other family members, anyone. My parents always had an excuse or said "The church wouldn't allow it" which is their favourite excuse. I had to quit many dreams because it was always "Well the church/the pastor wouldn't like that" like becoming a famous musician, studying abroad, or anything like that. I always thought I would've had to force it, but I felt like God would do something drastic like crash the plane if I ever tried and that would be the end of my life...
I've recently started to hate church and also am finding it hard to go to God about anything because of that.
I've known for a while now that I have no sense of myself OUTSIDE of my parents or church...And it gets me to thinking...I don't know myself. And it's making me question how I can even have a relationship with God without knowing myself or knowing anything outside of them...so I made the decision and I am moving in with a friend. Unfortunately it's back to my hometown which is across the country, but that's the only place I had friends since we move around so much that I never got the chance to make more really. I also have family out there which I felt was important to have because I know I'm going to need a support system when I go to school, etc...Both of my parents are seeminly angry since they are only hostile and only having "You're gonna fail but good luck!" conversations with me, but that's also why I'm leaving. Because they do that.
Basically my question is this....EVERYONE is quite upset with me for leaving and are saying I just need to stop "being so sensitive" and get over it and just stay.
But....why would God give me such an imaginative mind and all of these visions and ideas if I was meant to sit like a duck all my life? I feel like I'm an eagle instead and nobody wants me to fly. And I don't want to be scared to pursue anything in life because my destiny is to just sit under my parents like they say. I couldn't even decide my own career! They were trying to tell me what my career was, what classes I was taking, and everything...I just can't do it.
But is it what I'm supposed to be doing?
And if I am, then why did God give me so many dreams for them to waste away? And how come I have a huge voice pulling me away. Saying I'll be safe and find my way back to them once I find....me? And most importantly God...in a way that is uniquely me like the way he will judge on the final day. I have to learn to go to him for myself and that is what I am trying to do.
So why is everyone telling me what I am doing is the wrong thing and I need to just "Get over it"?
Anyways, recently, a fight broke out that actually resulted in my mom telling me to leave the house by the end of the month. She later took it back, but by then I had already found a new place to stay. And honestly....I wanted to leave anyways but they weren't allowing me. To stay with grandparents, with friends, other family members, anyone. My parents always had an excuse or said "The church wouldn't allow it" which is their favourite excuse. I had to quit many dreams because it was always "Well the church/the pastor wouldn't like that" like becoming a famous musician, studying abroad, or anything like that. I always thought I would've had to force it, but I felt like God would do something drastic like crash the plane if I ever tried and that would be the end of my life...
I've recently started to hate church and also am finding it hard to go to God about anything because of that.
I've known for a while now that I have no sense of myself OUTSIDE of my parents or church...And it gets me to thinking...I don't know myself. And it's making me question how I can even have a relationship with God without knowing myself or knowing anything outside of them...so I made the decision and I am moving in with a friend. Unfortunately it's back to my hometown which is across the country, but that's the only place I had friends since we move around so much that I never got the chance to make more really. I also have family out there which I felt was important to have because I know I'm going to need a support system when I go to school, etc...Both of my parents are seeminly angry since they are only hostile and only having "You're gonna fail but good luck!" conversations with me, but that's also why I'm leaving. Because they do that.
Basically my question is this....EVERYONE is quite upset with me for leaving and are saying I just need to stop "being so sensitive" and get over it and just stay.
But....why would God give me such an imaginative mind and all of these visions and ideas if I was meant to sit like a duck all my life? I feel like I'm an eagle instead and nobody wants me to fly. And I don't want to be scared to pursue anything in life because my destiny is to just sit under my parents like they say. I couldn't even decide my own career! They were trying to tell me what my career was, what classes I was taking, and everything...I just can't do it.
But is it what I'm supposed to be doing?
And if I am, then why did God give me so many dreams for them to waste away? And how come I have a huge voice pulling me away. Saying I'll be safe and find my way back to them once I find....me? And most importantly God...in a way that is uniquely me like the way he will judge on the final day. I have to learn to go to him for myself and that is what I am trying to do.
So why is everyone telling me what I am doing is the wrong thing and I need to just "Get over it"?