ok, I'm the one that makes the dinner in our house (big surprise) but me and my husband like totally different foods. I like Asian style food (stirfried vegtables, curries etc), lots of salads, vegetables, more light food. My husband likes meat, pastas, pizza, fried food. If I cook up a stirfry he turns up his nose at it, if I cook up fried foods he likes that but it leaves me feeling yucky and my tummy doesn't react well. We are on a very tight budget and I am also a student as well as a mother so I don't have the money or time to do up two different meals. Any suggestions? (we went to a chinese new years celebration yesterday, I loved the food, he didn't eat anything).
Note: I have read abit about how your blood group can affect how you process food and it made perfect sense to me because my blood group is the 'vegetarian' type (A+) and my husbands is the 'meateater' type (O-)
You are only talking different styles of frying. Stir frying or pan frying or deep frying. And you might think of your's as lighter and everything, but you actually use more fat in your style than his style does, though deep frying can use more. I would say that your feelings after eating his style are probably somewhat mental on your part, it really isn't that different, except that it probably is a lot lower in fiber. So you could try his style and take a noncaloric fiber suplement at the same time. And see if that fixes the problem.
Eating a meal of substantially less fiber tends to cause a lot fewer problems for the diner than eating one of substantially higher than normal fiber.
Note that a big change upwards in fiber can cause real gastrointestinal upset. Lots of gas, bloating, and even explosive diarhea. Take a guy used to a low fiber diet and fill him up with the high fiber vegetables and salads typical of your diet and he is probably going to be one sorry guy.
I suspect he hasn't shared his digestive problems that your style is causing him, maybe he hasn't really thought of it that much. But if someone just flat out refuses to eat something, it usually is a little more than it's just not his preferred food.
Back to that fiber supplement. Cook his style but get him to add a significant fiber supplement (slowly) then when he has gotten used to it and his intestines have undergone the changes that high fiber causes. Then he should be able to eat your style, not take the supplement and be just fine.
Spices and such, I really can't help you with. Curry can be difficult. If he is a person with a sensitive taste and you are a nontaster that loves hot spicey food. There really isn't much that can be done to get him to like the hot spicey food. You have to tone it down.
I'm the nonsenstive one in my family so I can dig into a hotsause that my wife just plain can't eat. If we cook for the two of us, say Mexican. We have to make it what to my taste is pretty bland, and if I want more heat, I grab a jar of Lousiana hot sauce and give it some.
I'm not sure exactly how to do a similar thing with curry, but basically you should try making it quite bland to your taste and see what he thinks of that. And if there is some way for you to heat the spices up to your liking at the table, that's the way to go.
Changes in diet take time and it's a lot of personal preferences and there's often more than a little emotional attachment associated with food. People grow up with food being a binding thing with their family and friends and so it's really kind of a memorial to them when we eat the same foods that we have eaten with them. It's more complicated than just simple nutrition.
Marv