Hi everyone, does anyone have any advice (I'm pretty sure this is quite common among many Christian couples) for myself and my bf. We have been courting for a year or so now and have been faced with much issues and struggles but have worked through them one by one and have built a very solid friendship and emotional bond. I'm asking advice to combat sexual temptation and arousal outside of marriage. We have been pretty good up until now (we don't stay at each other's houses in private or anything) but realised that kissing could lead to physical arousal even when we are in semi-public places. The chemistry is explosive and I need to help us both get things under control again. I'm determined to help him and the ideas are as follows:
1. Keep ourselves busy and going out to do something active together
2. No kissing at all - anywhere
3. Consistent prayer as always about it and continue to grow spiritually together
4. Be less nice and loving but to keep more emotional distance. I don't like this idea as I've been practicing to be gentle, encouraging and loving (through serving and respecting) towards him but someone advised me to stop being so good to him because it might make him love me even more which does not help the situation at all. But he did mention that it makes it harder for him to resist me and not love me this much when I'm honouring and encouraging him. We both fall deeper in love with one another when we are practicing this servant attitude towards each other.
Yes we are planning to get married one day but still waiting on his family's blessings and he believes it is way too soon after a year to be married. Should we be getting married sooner to deal with all this burning? I've heard of people ending their relationship with someone they love over these struggles so that they can place God first again and not be distracted. I'm terrified of this happening and would NOT want us to end our awesome relationship because of sexual temptation so I need some help from you guys (any extra advices?)
1. Keep ourselves busy and going out to do something active together
2. No kissing at all - anywhere
3. Consistent prayer as always about it and continue to grow spiritually together
4. Be less nice and loving but to keep more emotional distance. I don't like this idea as I've been practicing to be gentle, encouraging and loving (through serving and respecting) towards him but someone advised me to stop being so good to him because it might make him love me even more which does not help the situation at all. But he did mention that it makes it harder for him to resist me and not love me this much when I'm honouring and encouraging him. We both fall deeper in love with one another when we are practicing this servant attitude towards each other.
Yes we are planning to get married one day but still waiting on his family's blessings and he believes it is way too soon after a year to be married. Should we be getting married sooner to deal with all this burning? I've heard of people ending their relationship with someone they love over these struggles so that they can place God first again and not be distracted. I'm terrified of this happening and would NOT want us to end our awesome relationship because of sexual temptation so I need some help from you guys (any extra advices?)