- Mar 16, 2004
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Emotional attachments are tough, especially when you are having issues with regards to infidelity. I think it's pretty simple, though not easy, it's me only or not at all. Easy for me to say but that seems to be where your at with this.**Note: I'm not holding his past sin against him as he wasn't saved at the time. That's not the issue.
-I am mostly a virgin (experienced abuse in the past). He is not.
-He's been engaged twice before. I have never.
-He lived with his last fiance for over a year. Moving in with someone I was dating/courting never happened.
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-He chose his last fiance over me. I knew her as a friend before they came out as a couple. She was loudmouth about her extensive sexual past and some of the things she did for him.
....While I have been working on forgiving him for choosing someone else, I've been secretly working on trying to heal the brokenness inside of me regarding their sexual past.
True, deep down, we all want to go into marriage as whole and unburdened as possible. But, I know this world makes that impossible. How do I let Jesus erase the pain of knowing what I know?
How can I stop feeling "less than"? It's like being in stage at a talent competition for an audience of one, to put it gently. You've never stepped in stage before but the act ahead of you pretty much out on the whole show- and you KNOW IT!
I want to get over it. I want to move forward. Jesus IS the only answer but HOW? How do I let Him heal my mind, my heart & my selfish desire to erase her existence from HIS mind?
***Most important note: I love him deeply. Otherwise I wouldn't be trying to make this work - I would have said, "Adios & God speed! You choose me or you lose me!" Ha. But as Christ forgave me, I desire to forgive him.
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