I'm getting confused with all the info.
You don't really need to worry about it, and sorting it all out, especially since if you're Anglican, and this group is Anglican, these church structures really aren't going to be applicable to most anyone here. My point out of all of it is that the churches and church structures that exist today are not the same as in the 1st century. The 1st century church no longer exists as such and so whatever ordination customs they had as part of whatever church structures they had (typically very informal) aren't going to apply to us today.
The laws of the land are also very different, so if Paul advised against something based on a secular legal code of ancient Rome (so that Rome wouldn't come down hard in persecuting a church that had barely gotten started), that's not going to apply to us today either. For example, if it was illegal by Roman law for a woman to speak in a public assembly (which it was) then it was very unlikely that Paul would send out women to preach in all of those places where it was forbidden to them by law just so that they could get arrested and attract even more attention from the empire, and that's just one example.
The church cannot be anything less than transformative, which means that it must be alive to the people of today, who are typically not very inclined to living life exactly as they did back in the secular Roman empire with all the same laws and customs, including more people who were slaves than than there were citizens.
It really comes down to whether or not God has called a given person into ministry, and when I very noticeably see the Holy Spirit working in a woman, a black person, a Chinese person, etc., then who am I to decide the Spirit is wrong based on looking at scripture through a very imperfect human lens?