Between coming to these forums and listening to people from church on online couples that we know.... seems like christians don't take marriage seriously anymore. It doesn't even seem to be a sacred thing. Its as if they marry and realize marriage is not easy then look for an easy route out. No effort is ever put into it to some extent.
I used to talk about a woman a few years ago who divorced her husband over the fact he would leave his dirty clothes all over, such as underwear on the hand rail going up to their bedroom. At that time it was sort of funny, but now its sad because its becoming more common to divorce. And it seems christians are more accepting of letting others divorce. Many even encouraging it.
Even with the issue of abuse the first response most people say is to divorce. Nothing about steps to take before such a drastic step. Like counseling or moving out...etc. And even worse is the issue of marrying someone else afterwards. Its as if christians only hear what they want to hear from the bible about such issues and ignore the rest. To the point of twisting things so far from the truth that they forget its a twisted lie.
Since my wife and I married almost 5 years ago, 4 couples that married around the same time we did have divorced. To be fair the one was using the guy to get her green card. But the others were divorced on things that didn't call for divorce.
I say it all the time but I think alot of this has to do with how christians are raised. We here talk of marriage being beautiful, sacred....etc. We play with toys (well girls really) where barbie and ken are happily married and live a happy life. Where fairy tales in books and in tv shows and movies have "Happily ever after"(s). Stuff that shows the prince finds the princess...etc. This all puts a false reality in our head about what marriage is.
People believe its perfect, even if they see otherwise from actual married people. When they marry and they see its alot of work and its not a fairy tale, they just assume the other spouse is why everything is bad and they want to leave. It also doesn't help that media today is now making it common in stories for couples to divorce or maybe never even marry but stick around for "benefits". And in some cases literal benefits since many say not marrying, but being a couple makes some things easier like when it comes to taxes and what not.
Overall this all comes together to destroy marriages before they even start. I'd say pastors should start teaching messages about the truth of marriage and what its really like. Or about how no one goes into a marriage without baggage from life in general. Or how you shouldn't marry super young because almost no one is wise enough to marry when they are for example 19. Its like buying a bag of candy and telling a toddler not to eat any.
I'm just venting on here because not sure where else to go. Also I am not saying I am somehow better since my wife and I married. We like everyone else are not perfect. And God forbid things didn't work out, I don't know what I'd do. Though biblically I'd just stay single foreve or until I was a widow. Though that is advice that is not taken well today either.
Perhaps the bible says it best that in the end days things get worse. And not just talking about marriage things either.
I used to talk about a woman a few years ago who divorced her husband over the fact he would leave his dirty clothes all over, such as underwear on the hand rail going up to their bedroom. At that time it was sort of funny, but now its sad because its becoming more common to divorce. And it seems christians are more accepting of letting others divorce. Many even encouraging it.
Even with the issue of abuse the first response most people say is to divorce. Nothing about steps to take before such a drastic step. Like counseling or moving out...etc. And even worse is the issue of marrying someone else afterwards. Its as if christians only hear what they want to hear from the bible about such issues and ignore the rest. To the point of twisting things so far from the truth that they forget its a twisted lie.
Since my wife and I married almost 5 years ago, 4 couples that married around the same time we did have divorced. To be fair the one was using the guy to get her green card. But the others were divorced on things that didn't call for divorce.
I say it all the time but I think alot of this has to do with how christians are raised. We here talk of marriage being beautiful, sacred....etc. We play with toys (well girls really) where barbie and ken are happily married and live a happy life. Where fairy tales in books and in tv shows and movies have "Happily ever after"(s). Stuff that shows the prince finds the princess...etc. This all puts a false reality in our head about what marriage is.
People believe its perfect, even if they see otherwise from actual married people. When they marry and they see its alot of work and its not a fairy tale, they just assume the other spouse is why everything is bad and they want to leave. It also doesn't help that media today is now making it common in stories for couples to divorce or maybe never even marry but stick around for "benefits". And in some cases literal benefits since many say not marrying, but being a couple makes some things easier like when it comes to taxes and what not.
Overall this all comes together to destroy marriages before they even start. I'd say pastors should start teaching messages about the truth of marriage and what its really like. Or about how no one goes into a marriage without baggage from life in general. Or how you shouldn't marry super young because almost no one is wise enough to marry when they are for example 19. Its like buying a bag of candy and telling a toddler not to eat any.
I'm just venting on here because not sure where else to go. Also I am not saying I am somehow better since my wife and I married. We like everyone else are not perfect. And God forbid things didn't work out, I don't know what I'd do. Though biblically I'd just stay single foreve or until I was a widow. Though that is advice that is not taken well today either.
Perhaps the bible says it best that in the end days things get worse. And not just talking about marriage things either.