Feeling so alone and unconnected

[Randar]

I’m at a lost of what to do. I feel like I just can’t make a connection with anyone. I feel so alone. Everywhere I go I feel alone, unloved, and misunderstood. I’m aware I sound Winey and most likely self centered. The feeling is so real to me though, and I don’t know what to do. I pray, don’t receive answers, and I just started attending church again and it makes it worse because my anxiety is triggered while I’m there. All I can think is I will never belong here. I really don’t see I have a purpose. I have wanted to ask for prayer but I feel like I would be a burden on others. What do I do? I don’t want to drift away from God. How do I see I have even a purpose being here, but to feel this way. How do I overcome this? I really need suggestions because I can only think about one way not to suffer from this anymore....I have tried so hard to make these thoughts leave my mind. I keep wondering if God cares. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.

 

[Brightmoon]

Ask yourself why your church makes you feel bad . That bothered me. Some churches hold on to their parishioners by emotional abuse . If this is true you need to find another church . It’s called FOG Fear , Obligation and Guilt. Google

 

[devin553344]

I’m at a lost of what to do. I feel like I just can’t make a connection with anyone. I feel so alone. Everywhere I go I feel alone, unloved, and misunderstood. I’m aware I sound Winey and most likely self centered. The feeling is so real to me though, and I don’t know what to do. I pray, don’t receive answers, and I just started attending church again and it makes it worse because my anxiety is triggered while I’m there. All I can think is I will never belong here. I really don’t see I have a purpose. I have wanted to ask for prayer but I feel like I would be a burden on others. What do I do? I don’t want to drift away from God. How do I see I have even a purpose being here, but to feel this way. How do I overcome this? I really need suggestions because I can only think about one way not to suffer from this anymore....I have tried so hard to make these thoughts leave my mind. I keep wondering if God cares. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.

God loves you. That I'm sure of. Keep believing that.

Do you see a doctor and counselor for the anxiety?

 

[Unofficial Reverand Alex]

Normally I recommend quiet time, and it's worth a shot, but that might not do you any favors with your anxiety as such.

Talking to people is definitely good, even if you just discuss the situation with strangers online.

I have tried so hard to make these thoughts leave my mind.

Try ignoring them. Bounce your thoughts to something else. Unite your sufferings with the Crucifix. The Crucifix is a vital part of our Christian faith, because it gives a meaning to suffering. Remember Christ's sufferings, and how much He's reaching out to all of us; just take time to let your pain bring you closer to Christ, and amazing things will happen. I promise.

God be with you.

 

[Randar]

Ask yourself why your church makes you feel bad . That bothered me. Some churches hold on to their parishioners by emotional abuse . If this is true you need to find another church . It’s called FOG Fear , Obligation and Guilt. Google

I’m not sure that is the case in my current situation. This makes only second time I have been to this church. Before that I haven’t been in a couple years due to negative experiences. I feel like it’s more me and the fact I’m just weird and introverted.

 

[Randar]

Normally I recommend quiet time, and it's worth a shot, but that might not do you any favors with your anxiety as such.

Talking to people is definitely good, even if you just discuss the situation with strangers online.


Try ignoring them. Bounce your thoughts to something else. Unite your sufferings with the Crucifix. The Crucifix is a vital part of our Christian faith, because it gives a meaning to suffering. Remember Christ's sufferings, and how much He's reaching out to all of us; just take time to let your pain bring you closer to Christ, and amazing things will happen. I promise.

God be with you.

Thanks, It is easier to talk online then in person.

 

[Brightmoon]

I’m not sure that is the case in my current situation. This makes only second time I have been to this church. Before that I haven’t been in a couple years due to negative experiences. I feel like it’s more me and the fact I’m just weird and introverted.

I’m going to recommend a book called Highly Sensitive People. I’m going see if I can get the author s name as it’s a few years old . Found it . It’s by Elaine N Aron

 

[Randar]

God loves you. That I'm sure of. Keep believing that.

Do you see a doctor and counselor for the anxiety?

Yes. The downside is I’m in a support group for depression. Even there I feel like an outsider and make no connection. I have already been prescribed a few different types of meds.

 

[devin553344]

Yes. The downside is I’m in a support group for depression. Even there I feel like an outsider and make no connection. I have already been prescribed a few different types of meds.

Then maybe brightmoons idea might be good, a book about sensitive people may be helpful. That's good to hear that your connected in a support group. Sometimes I like to read about how god loves us: John 3:16

 

[devin553344]

Yes. The downside is I’m in a support group for depression. Even there I feel like an outsider and make no connection. I have already been prescribed a few different types of meds.

Do you think it is related to a social anxiety? Then maybe here would provide a good experience, people will talk to you here that's for sure.

 

[Brotherly Spirit]

We're all lost sheep being called to the Lord. Each personally have a plan for their lives and it's only a matter of listening as God himself prepares us. Couple reminders is Jesus didn't conform to the world and people's expectations, first and above all it was God personally in His life. Whether it's worship or fellowship, the focus is on remembering God and Jesus; not about them or you.

So having this in mind concentrate your attention not on any person including yourself, but God and Jesus. When you do, the good and peace will occupy what otherwise would been expectation and anxiety. For relationships with fellow members, rely on the shared faith in the Lord and participate when possible (Having no expectations except revere the Lord.)

 

[paul1149]

Other things may be very helpful, but I believe there is no substitute for spending time alone with the Lord. That may seem counterintuitive, because we perceive the problem as already being too alone, but it's in that one-on-one that our deepest spiritual needs are met. And there is no substitute for time spent at it. It changes nothing externally right away, but it does put us at ease internally, and our problems don't seem as bad. In 2Cor 12, Paul relates how the Lord told him, "My power is perfected in weakness". So don't be afraid to just be yourself in His presence. He can handle it, and He knows what to do with it.

 

[Randar]

Do you think it is related to a social anxiety? Then maybe here would provide a good experience, people will talk to you here that's for sure.

Yes I’m sure I have social anxiety. I just wish I could get over it. I’m really thankful for the website. I can talk to others and be myself.

 

[devin553344]

Yes I’m sure I have social anxiety. I just wish I could get over it. I’m really thankful for the website. I can talk to others and be myself.

That's good that you can engage here, that is what I was hoping My sister has social anxiety too. She has a hard time having conversations with people, even me when we're alone kind of. I'm not sure if there are any self-help books out there, but it's good that you have counseling and a support group. Keep trying! Maybe God will kick in and fix it for you someday, you have to have hope and pray

 

[KasperBlue]

Greetings and Salutations my Christian sister. Even though this post is a couple months old now - I just joined this site only bout an hour (or so?) ago, and this is quite literally the first thread/ post I happened to read/ reply too. That being said, I can relate in so many ways too what you said and are going through.

Please forgive me if this turns out to be a long reply to your post here?

I, myself, share this same struggle, as well as been told i sound winey, and self centered too boot. Which, I guess I can see how others would think that, as it all seems to be all-about-me. Thing is, I feel so emphatically alone in this life, unwanted, unloved, only to be avoided and feel like a plague more then an actual human being. More often then not, I find it very disheartening and defeating

While our situations maybe very different from one another, I can't even begin to put into words how alone and disconnected I feel from the world around me anymore. I spend a GREAT deal of time remaining isolated and alone (for my own reasons), yet I find myself - endlessly - drowning in the abyss of loneliness these days.

Sadly, however, I don't have any helpful words or advice when it comes to being/ going to church, as I don't attend one myself. Getting out of the house, for me, isn't always as feasible due to how bad my agoraphobia, and other issues, wreck havoc in my life.

That being said, however, I will say this. A couple months ago, I was at an all time low. Well, truth be told, it's been quite a few years I've felt this low now, yet I digress. Yet, I got to the point I needed a change, I needed something to happen, this isn't all there is too life (isolating and being/ feeling so utterly alone), there just has to be more to life then this.

Not too boast in saying this, mind you, yet I went into my room, closed the door and dropped to my knees in prayer, and simply begged for something, anything from Him. I couldn't keep going on like this anymore. And boy howdy, did I ever get an answer to that prayer.

Long story short, since then, I have turned to God and His Word more now then I ever have in my life. It may not seem like much of a comfort, as I say - there are times I have a pure desperation, at times, to talk/ interact with someone/ anyone aside from these four walls I find myself trapped in. Yet, as His Word instructs us to do, we are too seek Him out, follow His Commandments (not only the 10 commandments, but more), and Love Him with all our hearts.

The Commandment in which I speak of, seems to be a very controversial topic to talk in some circles, of even bring up online, as everyone seems to have their own thoughts and opinions on the matter. Ive had a lot of individuals bashlash/ verbal attacks for such. Yet the more I learn about it all (Gods Word/ Commandments), the more I see just how corrupt this world is in which we live in. Take from that what you will, though, yet I highly recommend studying Gods Word, and His Commandments.

Peace be with you sister