Feeling Overwhelmed

[DZoolander]

Darkwing -

I just read all of your posts - and I want to apologize for my previous post to you. I misread you. You sound like a really nice guy, with the best of intentions...and I probably did bring some of my own issues into reading your original post.

I was raised German/Zion Lutheran...and I remember when I was a kid the pastor bringing all of us kids together and telling us why "we alone" were "saved".

1. "The Jews are going to hell because they haven't accepted Christ as their savior"
2. The Catholics are going to hell because they pray to the saints, and that's idolatry.
3. The Methodists are going to hell because of...
4. The Presbyterians because of...
5. The Pentecostals because of...

and so on - and so on.

When I challenged that - and said (half sarcastically "Well, the only reason I'm Lutheran is because my mom is Lutheran... How lucky I am to have been born into the "one true faith") - I was denied confirmation. I pretty much gave "my church" the bird - and have ever since been very leery of people that talk about "salvation".

I shouldn't have assumed a lot of the stuff that I did - and I apologize for the tone of my original message. You sound like a great guy - with pure motives.

The only thing that I wonder - however - is whether or not your wife might be reading you/misinterpreting you the way that I originally did. I wonder how much of what she's feeling mirrors what I was thinking... Because - to me - the most important thing is whether you accept Christ - and whether you love and accept Him.

If I felt that I did those things - and the most important person in my life believed that I was damned (because "unsaved" means damned) - I would be very hurt.

I dunno...maybe just food for thought.

 

[pete56]

Nope, you wouldn't be correct - I simply didn't like any of the choices at first glance

EZ

You are clearly not in an UY relationship and from what you post never have been.

I trust our brother DW here will receive your very prolific advice with a healthy pinch of salt, as you are clearly not speaking from any sort of relevant experience!

I do hope you will consider carefully whether you really are qualified to provide advice on a matter that you have never experienced.

This forum is quite specifically for the support and edification of Christians that find themselves (for what ever reason) in an UY marriage. Your posts have not been supportive or helpful to our brother here.

I recognise that you have subsequently apologised for not reading the entire thread before making your judgemental and unhelpful posts, but may I offer you a piece of advice - please read all relevant information before posting in future!

It may also be helpful if you would choose to display your faith icon if you are going to post in a Christian Only Forum (which is what UY is).

Thank you for your apology.

Pete56

 

[free4all]

Thank you very much free4all for standing up for me.

Any time. I hate to see someone falsely accused and given unscriptural and bad advice. I hate to see someone stomped on while they are down by one who does not recognize basic Scriptural principles.

I've never been "hellfire and brimstone" with my wife. It has really been just the opposite. I know how sensitive she is to the whole subject of "religion" (to me it's faith) so I try for the most part to avoid discussing it with her. I have clearly stated to her my beliefs and my stance and how much it means to me but that's it. I believe when she's ready to talk about it she'll come to me, or she'll find another Christian she feels comfortable with to talk to.

Many of us are familiar with what you have described here.

The path I am choosing isn't the only path, but I believe I'm on the path that Jesus has made for us and any other path only leads to death.

Well said.

"Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to turn a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law - a man's enemies will be the members of his own household. Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and anyone who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it."

An appropriate reference. There will also be wolves in sheep's clothing in churches, forums, and subforms. Or rather, wolves in wolves' clothing--those who refuse to submit to the teachings of Christ, and boldly proclaim their rebellion.

Jesus warned us that our relationships with non-believers would often become adversarial.

And due to the changes here at CF, we may see more of this in this forum--people coming here and causing dissent, people who don't have a clue what it's like to live with an unsaved person, or those who want to attack anyone living for Christ because it doesn't fit THEIR way.

We are commanded to put him first. The rules did change in my marriage, but they are not my rules, they are God's and I'll follow them because he's the master and he's the one who knows what truly is best for me.

Excellent response.

I pray for your wife's heart to soften. I pray she will continue to worship with you. I pray you two will be drawn together. I pray for peace in your family, but not at the expense of you compromising your walk with God. I pray you will have great influence in your family's lives as you lead them to God.

 

[cristianna]

Yikes this was a lot of reading! I so need to remember to not just hit the threads I've subscribed to. I'm so sorry for stepping into this late DW.

We had actually been getting along better lately and my wife has started going to church on Sunday morning. She won't go to the one I've been going to with the kids for the last year because it's charismatic, so she goes to a friend of ours Methodist church. We've actually all been going together and I do like it. I still take the kids to the charismatic (it's a Church of God) on Wednesday nights, I don't make them go they ask me if they can go, which I praise God for. DW doesn't like it, she said today I make them go. I think she's just feeling left out of something that we have that is special, but yet she still has not made the decision to commit her life to Christ. Anyway, she threw out the D word again today over the phone and so I told her to go get a lawyer and hung up on her. We still haven't yet talked about it, we're avoiding each other right now. I'm not sure if I'm over my fear of divorce, but I'm certainly fed up with this and no longer will live like this. What I am concerned the most with is being disobediant to God as he commands us to love our wives as ourselves and to give our lives to them. With fighting and the possibility of divorce it's hard not to feel as though I'm wrong in the Lord's eyes. I fear that I am being selfish by not giving in to her. I know this is wrong but it's a hard thing to deal with, especially when I'm still suffering from depression. I really feel burned out and it's affecting my relationship with the Lord.

I thank you for your support and hope to one day return the kindness.

God Bless you all.

From a women's perspective (take what you can out of this as you will know what's best), but I'd venture to say she's embarrassed to not have been attending at all with you and your children on Wednesday nights, and probably toss in fearful as to how you, ESPECIALLY the children, are answering where Mommy is. And the result of an embarrassed woman is bit-ter-ness.

And/Or... she feels you're infringing upon her time with the kids, and potentially fears they won't be *her* babies anymore but *yours.*

I could be completely wrong with either, but I do think you really need to sit down and ask yourself why she's truly and sincerely hostile about Wednesday nights because she's casting judgement without even attending. I have a hard time believing it has to do with charismatic-isms if she's willing to claim her label as "Catholic" and attend a *Methodist* church.

After I rededicated my life to God last year he delivered me from smoking (I quit cold turkey after 20 years) and he delivered me from anxiety. I no longer fear any of the things that caused my attacks and constant worrying. I still do experience fear and worrying but it doesn't affect me the way it used to. Now I have Jesus to lean on. What I do still suffer from is depression and possibly a mild form of OCD. I pray often to be delivered from this but I am coming to believe that coming out of depression is a process, not an immediate resolution. Depression is a valid medical condition but at least in my case it cannot be cured with medicine. I think it will involve changing the way I deal with things. I tend to hide my feelings and bury my anger instead of dealing with it. What it has resulted in is a wall in my head to block out most of my feelings. Now I can't get past the wall. I'm sure a lot of this is a result of my relationship with my wife, who I've always given in to and let her get her way. Otherwise she tells me all the bad things I've done to her. I've never done anything bad to her, in fact I think I've enabled her to become spoiled.

I am going to make changes in this relationship, for better or worse for the marriage. My concern is where is line drawn between regaining my dignity, respect, and authority and actually feeling good about myself again, or becoming a selfish, arrogant jerk.

Sorry, I'm rambling again. I guess writing things down is good therapy. Take care and thank you for your concern.

D

PTL for His awesome works in your life! It's so fantastic to hear about how He changes people.

It is *my* opinion harboring feelings and thinking there's no need to unbury them is the work of no one but the devil. You have stated "I guess writing down things is good therapy". Microsoft Word allows documents to be password protect. That's a great place for a journal if you are fearful of not being able to be completely honest due to others finding and reading it.

May I recommend a change no matter how late I am in coming to this? Honestly, I'd pray, pray, pray for God to intercede between all communications with your wife. I'd ask God to also empower you to show her His love for her through YOU.

Today she asked me if I was going to contest the divorce when she files. She says she is going to file. I don't even know what to do. Should I get a lawyer? I don't have any savings and really can't afford one, but I will be fighting for joint custody of my kids. I really need some prayer and guidance.

I have never been in this situation, but oh the sympathy I have for you. If it was me I would ask one of the churches for a christian lawyer recommendation. The last thing in a painful time like this I would need is someone trying to persuade me to rake my spouse over the coals and ask for the moon and more.

And remember God is in control. He knows what He's doing, what is going to happen and He knows the ultimate outcome good or bad. And he will use ALL of this to refine you.

Something that really bothers me is this. Right now all I can think about is the damage this is going to cause to our children and the financial impact this will have on all of us. I don't really feel so much that I'm losing her. Maybe it will hit me later, but I kind of feel like a monster that I'm more worried about money and who's going to get custody of the kids and all that instead of being hurt because I'm losing my wife. How can I feel like this when I'm supposed to be filled with the Love of God? I'm also trying real hard to trust God to take care of me and my family through this, but I'm still feeling a lot of fear and sadness.

I think many would feel the same way if they were walking in your shoes.

If your wife has firmly decided to leave, you've lost her already. Frankly, if she plans to leave, you might as well let her go. Actually, when an unbelieving mate leaves, the Bible tells the saved person to let the other one go. It's a command, not a suggestion.

I could not agree more.

 

[cristianna]

In regards to your question about whether I meant my marriage vows, the the answer is yes I did. I do not want a divorce and have been struggling to save my marriage for over a year. She does not like the church I go to and is trying to get me to leave it completely. I have agreed to try to find a church that we can both agree on and I thought we had found one. We all go to the same church on Sunday morning. On Wednesday I go to the church she doesn't like and my kids love it so they go with me.

Most Methodist churches are very family oriented, but they can very greatly from church to church. I would recommend calling or emailing the secretary or pastor and ask what family activities they have routinely. Then offer it up to your wife in passing to see if she's interested. If she is, I would consider trying it out and replacing it with the Wednesday nights.

This is so hard because I see all sides to this. Honestly, are the Wednesday nights something you're really willing to constantly battle? If it is, that is absolutely fine. But... if there is an alternative out there in which she's willing to participate in, wouldn't that be better-- her involved, the family involved, everyone happy?

I'm willing to bet she will never compromise about Wednesday night. It's "too late in the game" for her to show face due to embarrassment or just plain hostility that you found something the children love that she didn't come up with. And I mean no harm when I say that. But, right or wrong, us mothers do pride ourselves when we have found something our children love doing. Why? Because we get to chat it up to family and friends, invite others to join us, etc.

She has become very hostile to this and it seems as though this is the breaking point. She keeps throwing all kinds of things in my face and tells me I judge her all the time. I don't judge her and when I ask her how I do or what I say she cannot give me an answer. She twists everything I say and makes me feel as though I am just some kind of thoughtless monster.

I'm also the type who wants reasons why. When dh says I'm being rude or whatever I want to know why and how I've made him feel that way. Was it my tone, facial expressions, one key word that side tracked my point, etc.

Regardless if she feels you are judging her, but you insist you are not, the spouse really needs to determine where the feeling came from. And most importantly they need to validate the other spouse's feeling.

Could I possibly be somewhere near the mark when I say: she's the one twisting and reading too greatly into what you are saying due to her own insecurities?

I can't take it anymore. I know I can't let a church come between my marriage, she comes before the church, but God is ultimately first and I don't think it really matters what church I go to, she will always resent my walk with the Lord. It has come to the point where I feel my walk with God is suffering and that I am not serving him as well as I should because of her.

Sounds to me like the enemy has finally got his foothold on the situation and the claws are beyond deep. Do not allow the enemy to overcome you. Remember God is there. God is the one who is in control. Reread Job when you have a chance and notice how the trio (God, Job and the enemy) work with one another. And take comfort in God didn't allow the devil any ground unless He approved it. And ultimately God knew how Job would respond and he knew the outcome before it even happened.

I told her again last night that I was a born again believer in Jesus and always would be. I asked her point blank if she was. She just looked at me. The bible says we will know whether someone belongs to the Lord by the fruit they bear. There is no fruit. I know she has not been saved. She professes to be Catholic but in the 12 years I have had a relationship with her the only time she has gone to a Catholic service was for funerals.

She is saying that I disrespect her because I am against Catholicism and I don't want my children being raised Catholic. While this may seem true on the surface I have never bashed her or the Catholic religion, I have only stated to her my reasons why I don't believe in it.

In the complex world of women you are disrespecting her by saying anything against the Catholic church. Regardless of how much she was or was not raised in it, it apparently is her family's choice of denomination; therefore you are bashing her family and the one and only aspect of religion she knows.

I am by no means saying you are right or wrong. I'm simply stating how most women will generalize and view things.

Now if you want to complex that even more we can go deeper. I'm currently in a bible study that really eloquently stated why people are "fist shakers" and not willing to come to God. Those who choose not to believe decide they must hate the thing which they perceive is threatening them - in this case a loving, yet righteous God. How true is that?!?!?! I could go on and on and on writing a novel, but that so clearly sums it perfectly.

How do I give her over to God? I have asked God to take over this whole situation and just lead me in the direction to go. My nerves are so frayed right now I can barely concentrate on anything. Even prayer is hard. I feel as though the devil is slamming me right now with a bunch of guilt and worthlessness thoughts. I feel like a failure. This is one of those times where it feels as though the Lord is far away. I am trying very hard to stand on God's word that he will never leave me nor forsake me, but the devil is trying to make me feel like I've failed God by screwing up my marriage and that he is punishing me. I don't believe this but the struggle is real and very difficult. I really need someone to talk to but I don't have anyone close to me that is a Christian. I know I must reach out but that will probably cause more friction in the marriage.

Pray asking God to keep the devil at bay until you can regroup, refocus and continue the battle. Ask Him to take on the battle for you now. (And I'll be asking Him the same thing on your behalf.) No prayer is ridiculous, crazy or worthless. I've prayed for a maid! I still don't have one (and as a sahm do I really, really need one?), but I never know what God is willing to provide me if I don't ask.

Your prayers don't need to be long eloquent poems ya' know, sometimes just, "God, help me..." is enough. Don't be frazzled if you can't juggle all the balls life is throwing at you. Just take it one step at a time, and make progress, rather than try and do everything and end up doing nothing.

Absolutely. God even knows and hears the prayers of our silence and tears when we cannot utter words.

Wow! Good to know I am not alone in this! I am 42 yrs old, been married since 1992, but most of my marriage has not been happy. I was first saved in the late 80s...I remember being close to God, running from sin, allthough failing at times....I have a past as a drug user,started doing drugs when I was in highschool. After being saved, and comming to Jesus, I forsook the drug life. But relapse happened time and time again. My wife and I met in a homeless shelter in San diego....I had relapsed again when we met. she knew these things because i told her all about it. after being married about a year, I relapsed again. This was to be a continuing cycle of quitting and using. Presently, I have been off the drugs a long time, but she never has forgiven me. She is not a christian, doesnt want to believe in the truth...only her version of the truth. didnt mean to post so much here....more later. thanks for being part of this forum.

Love the username StillChanging! And welcome!

I'd give a nice welcome to IrishMan too, but I've already done that in another thread.

 

[kayd1966]

Anyone heard from DW?

Just catching up on the reading and am very glad I wasn't around a week ago...Wayne & Pete, you handled the nicely.

DW...if you are here, please check out the Check in thread for updates.

God Bless...

 

[cristianna]

I was wondering the same thing myself Kay.

Love the football gear! And pre-season is almost over! Time for the real action to begin!!!!

 

[pete56]

Err Cristi

It is Ezoolander that is wearing 'football' gear here!

 

[cristianna]

Err Cristi

It is Ezoolander that is wearing 'football' gear here!

Doh! Thanks so much! Honestly, I really haven't put my contacts in yet. Hmm... maybe it's time to do that. lol

 

[darkwing70]

I am still here. I've been extremely busy lately. With three young children it's hard enough to find the time to do much of anything, but this past week I've had to put in a lot of extra hours at work.

There has been so many new posts since my last that I'm not even sure I can respond to everyone. I do want to thank Cristianna for helping me to see things from a woman's perspective. I know I've fallen into the me vs. her trap and developed tunnel vision. I'm really trying to be more sensitive to her beliefs. We are getting along right now but we seem to be tiptoe-ing around each other somewhat. I am at a place right now where I am sort of leaving her in God's hands. I am not trying to control this situation but just let each day come and try my best to stay focused on the Lord and my family.

I'll probably post more later. I've joined the new CCF forum as darkwing70, but I'm not sure I like this name anymore so I'm trying to think of a new name.

Anyway, I'm not able to spend a lot of time here right now but I do remember you all in my prayers. Thanks again for all of your support.

DW

 

[free4all]

Good to hear from you. Drop by whenever you have time. We'll be here (or there).

 

[savedbygracebre]

I have a question to ask. My wife professes to be Catholic and that is one of the problems we face. I don't have any reason to believe she is saved, in fact, I don't think she believes she needs to be saved. But I have issues with Catholicism. I don't mean to offend any Catholics, but I truly believe it is a false religion based on lots of studying I've done and my gut feeling about it. Anyway, my question is if she leaves because we can't agree about Catholicism, is that the same thing that Paul wrote in I Corthinthians Chapter 7 about an unbelieving wife leaving?

Something that really bothers me is this. Right now all I can think about is the damage this is going to cause to our children and the financial impact this will have on all of us. I don't really feel so much that I'm losing her. Maybe it will hit me later, but I kind of feel like a monster that I'm more worried about money and who's going to get custody of the kids and all that instead of being hurt because I'm losing my wife. How can I feel like this when I'm supposed to be filled with the Love of God? I'm also trying real hard to trust God to take care of me and my family through this, but I'm still feeling a lot of fear and sadness.

I've been reading this thread and really had to comment at this point. I, too, am unequally yoked(saved after 10 years of marriage. The one(of many)primary arguement is where i can go to church. My wife is a catholic. I am a christian-religeon will not save you-only putting your trusting faith in Jesus Christ will! The reason you are waring over catholicism is now that you have been reading your bible you are being taught by God-not by man. It doesn't seem profitable to me that someone would trust their salvation to what a church or a preacher tells them. My wife really thinks that -all catholics go to heaven! Which to me is ludacris. You will find, asa i have found, that the more you study the Word, the more against the teachings of other churches will offend you.This is the Holy Spirit inside of you teaching you-don't quench it. In the end, you might learn as i have, to accept her beliefs out of love for her and not self-pity. She is lost-she will never know the wonderful truths that we have until God iniates and she responds. Try not to preach to much or to attack her religeon-it will never do any good, and only make her more defensive and more resistant to the gospel.
My prayers are with you.

 

[cory533]

I've been reading this thread and really had to comment at this point. I, too, am unequally yoked(saved after 10 years of marriage. The one(of many)primary arguement is where i can go to church. My wife is a catholic. I am a christian-religeon will not save you-only putting your trusting faith in Jesus Christ will! The reason you are waring over catholicism is now that you have been reading your bible you are being taught by God-not by man. It doesn't seem profitable to me that someone would trust their salvation to what a church or a preacher tells them. My wife really thinks that -all catholics go to heaven! Which to me is ludacris. You will find, asa i have found, that the more you study the Word, the more against the teachings of other churches will offend you.This is the Holy Spirit inside of you teaching you-don't quench it. In the end, you might learn as i have, to accept her beliefs out of love for her and not self-pity. She is lost-she will never know the wonderful truths that we have until God iniates and she responds. Try not to preach to much or to attack her religeon-it will never do any good, and only make her more defensive and more resistant to the gospel.
My prayers are with you.

I would say the most important thing is you do need to be in church. Yes some churches are better than others some are off track. but the bible is clear that we should "forsake not the gathering of beleivers" Can you find common ground ? I know there are some wonderful Charesmatic, Catholic churches out ther that truely are spirit lead.or can you attend seperately or maybe together on sunday and apart on weds? Ultimately you do need to take a stand but you will never succede in bullying her into heaven. If you must go alone so be it. You lead and trust her to God.

 

[savedbygracebre]

I would say the most important thing is you do need to be in church. Yes some churches are better than others some are off track. but the bible is clear that we should "forsake not the gathering of beleivers" Can you find common ground ? I know there are some wonderful Charesmatic, Catholic churches out ther that truely are spirit lead.or can you attend seperately or maybe together on sunday and apart on weds? Ultimately you do need to take a stand but you will never succede in bullying her into heaven. If you must go alone so be it. You lead and trust her to God.

Last Easter, i had finally told my wife that i was going to visit another church for the morning service. I had been taking my kids to our catholic church(she never goes-too tired or some other excuse). My problem, is, even though i know that the catholic religeon has some good truth too it-it also has very many false teachings that are either not in scripture or go against scripture. It seems that i was going to church more too see the wrongs they were teaching, rather than opening my heart to the good. It really is hard too see light around you when you know darkness is also present. When i told my wife i was going to another type of church, she completely, and i mean completely came unglued. What made it worse, is that i would not back down, quoted some scripture, and told her that i could choose to worship where i wanted to. Would you believe that she even told me i couldn't go because i was born a catholic! I wasn't, of course, just forced into that religeon by my parents- i had no choice as an infant. My problems came because she was making a big scene in front of my two young children, basically telling them that i was trying to cause mom and dad to break up because i want to leave our church. After me getting into a few disagreements, i had to back away so my children would not keep worrying and crying. That night(like the next 5 nights), i slept in my son's room. That same night, as my wife drank a few beers, she actually threatened to kill me! It was said out of anger, and i knew it was really not her saying it, but it really angered me. I ended up taking my son to catholic church that morning because the pain that had already been caused di not need to continue. I just couldn't see the profit in me going to another church if it would cause my children to hurt more. My son is 11 and he knows the Lord; he also knows that i am correct and that his mother is wrong-but it is still his mother and there should not be any division between them. After a few days my wife and i talked and both agreed for now that i would stay in our church while our kids our growing up, but whenever they leave home or mature(i guess), then i can go where i want to. Am i sad-yes. Have i made the right decision-i'm not sure. I read my bible daily, and study various books by several authors. I try in every way to get my church at home and to let God teach me. My biggest problem is that i am the only christian in my family.Her entire family cannot figure me out-and as always, when i make a stand for God(such as church) they all hate me more because they recieve her side of the story-and since i am not a "good catholic" they will not give me the time of day to hear my side. Plus, what good would it do-their eyes will not see the truth until God reveals it to them. My beliefs make total nonsense to all of them. Just like i quit drinking two years ago-her entire family likes to "party", and i am the boring, sober person now-do you see the hypocrisy-i am the one living for Jesus-yet i am the one(in their eyes)that is doing wrong! I'll see how much more of this i can take, as the last few weeks have been difficult. I believe help is on the way, as i have ordered some good books(surviving a spititual mismatch)to help me cope better.
Thanks, and God bless.

 

[savedbygracebre]

Hey, another post here. I had posted the previous post without going back to catch up on the previous posts-oops! I just wanted to let Darkwing know that after reading about his situation with his wife and the problems he is going thru it sound sooo much like mine. It's like he is typing out my life too. I too, as i have posted before, struggle with a controlling and domineering wife-but something i keep rehashing in my head is that God is bigger than her. I'll definitely be checking in on this forum a little more often too see if i can help you in any way. You are on the right track-it is hard, but Jesus never said it would be easy. But think about your reward when you finish- salvation-heaven! I know it will all be worth it one day-and remember-all the people who have wronged you and stood against you and took revenge against your God will one day look up from hell and see and know FOR ETERNITY that you were right and only tried to save them with truth.

 

[cory533]

I tried for years to find and attend a church my wife would approve of it never happened then I just went where Jesus wanted me to go and it has made all the difference. At one time I had to warn my wife to back off on the subject of my beliefs because at that time the only reason I was not divorced already was because God told me to stay. If she wanted to mess that up she could but at her own peril. After that she did back off and let me attend church with my sons and mostly did not interfere so long as church did not consume all my time.
As to the Catholic church I understand your point I quit attending as I do believe you can be Catholic and be saved but you have to work harder at it. There are a number of disagreements I have with parts of the church often however those parts are not truly sanctioned church doctrine but just bias of a particular church, preist or diocese. you might find a good place within the church where you may get the chance to lead others to Christ.

 

[savedbygracebre]

I tried for years to find and attend a church my wife would approve of it never happened then I just went where Jesus wanted me to go and it has made all the difference. At one time I had to warn my wife to back off on the subject of my beliefs because at that time the only reason I was not divorced already was because God told me to stay. If she wanted to mess that up she could but at her own peril. After that she did back off and let me attend church with my sons and mostly did not interfere so long as church did not consume all my time.
As to the Catholic church I understand your point I quit attending as I do believe you can be Catholic and be saved but you have to work harder at it. There are a number of disagreements I have with parts of the church often however those parts are not truly sanctioned church doctrine but just bias of a particular church, preist or diocese. you might find a good place within the church where you may get the chance to lead others to Christ.

I'm glad to hear that your situation worked out Cory. Mine is difficult, since her whole family(i basically don't have a family to support me)is against every thing that i do when it comes to God. My mother passed on when i was 18(now 38), i haven't spoken to my dad in over a year, my sister has a ton of problems right now and lives 2 hours away-that's it basically-noone. So when i take a stand for what i believe it is only me against everyone. BUT, i did leave out my most important friend who is in my corner-Jesus; and with him on my side who else can i possibly need? So, that is how i rest in this turmoil-it is very difficult, but i do know that one day everything will work together for good.

 

[Jenniewren]

I'm glad to hear that your situation worked out Cory. Mine is difficult, since her whole family(i basically don't have a family to support me)is against every thing that i do when it comes to God. My mother passed on when i was 18(now 38), i haven't spoken to my dad in over a year, my sister has a ton of problems right now and lives 2 hours away-that's it basically-noone. So when i take a stand for what i believe it is only me against everyone.

BUT, i did leave out my most important friend who is in my corner-Jesus; and with him on my side who else can i possibly need? So, that is how i rest in this turmoil-it is very difficult, but i do know that one day everything will work together for good.

This is an excellent testimony and I will pray that your family will one day soon see the truth xx