Hi there,
I'm currently dating a Christian guy. Im a Christian believer myself, but not from a religious family and I have not been going to church very much lately (although I started going regularly again). I have not selectively been dating Christian men before because I did not meet enough Christian men for dating and was getting impatient.
I am very excited to finally be dating a decent Christian guy, and in most aspects he is truly my dream guy. We both believe we have a good connection and vibe emotionally and mentally. However, one thing I find difficult to get over is his (perceived) judgmentalness.
His ex girlfriend was a very Christian girl, and I am simply not that Christian. He mentions her often & tells me how much her learnt from her, how giving she was, how selfless, how much of an example she was to others. She had a subservient heart and he admires that.
Every time he gives an example like that I cannot help but to feel compared, and there to be high expectations from his side regarding my 'heart' and 'degree of Christianity'. I am just not a perfect Christian, also have other priorities in life, career-wise for example. Of course I admire people who have a high degree of selflessness. I assume (hope) they are not doing it to impress potential partners. However, because of his comments, I'm scared he will ultimately think my heart is not 'holy' enough. Also, I do not want to be pressured to be a certain way, and this makes me a feel a little bit like I can't just be as I am.
We have only been dating for about 1 month, and havent been friends before... so its super early.
Any thoughts/advice?
Thanks a lot!
Cheers,
Ravillante
I'm currently dating a Christian guy. Im a Christian believer myself, but not from a religious family and I have not been going to church very much lately (although I started going regularly again). I have not selectively been dating Christian men before because I did not meet enough Christian men for dating and was getting impatient.
I am very excited to finally be dating a decent Christian guy, and in most aspects he is truly my dream guy. We both believe we have a good connection and vibe emotionally and mentally. However, one thing I find difficult to get over is his (perceived) judgmentalness.
His ex girlfriend was a very Christian girl, and I am simply not that Christian. He mentions her often & tells me how much her learnt from her, how giving she was, how selfless, how much of an example she was to others. She had a subservient heart and he admires that.
Every time he gives an example like that I cannot help but to feel compared, and there to be high expectations from his side regarding my 'heart' and 'degree of Christianity'. I am just not a perfect Christian, also have other priorities in life, career-wise for example. Of course I admire people who have a high degree of selflessness. I assume (hope) they are not doing it to impress potential partners. However, because of his comments, I'm scared he will ultimately think my heart is not 'holy' enough. Also, I do not want to be pressured to be a certain way, and this makes me a feel a little bit like I can't just be as I am.
We have only been dating for about 1 month, and havent been friends before... so its super early.
Any thoughts/advice?
Thanks a lot!
Cheers,
Ravillante
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