Well certainly today it isn't everyone though perhaps I'm naive enough to think that there's still a significant number. In any case I believe that it is possible and healthy to live without sex before marriage.
If we want to say that homosexual sex is immoral and that homosexuals should not enter into heterosexual marriages (because it won't be a full marriage), then we also have to accept that sex and marriage aren't things that everyone, even every heterosexual, is called to.
I agree, but if someone said to you, "I burn with lust. I'm going to get married. But you? You should join the priesthood, or remain celebate."
Would you do it? Is it another's place to tell you what you should be doing, while they are sexually active? Is it another's place to tell you what God wants for your life?
While you think that there are a significant amount of men who are virgins before they marry, and something that I respect, it's not very common for a man marrying at 25 or so to be a virgin. In fact, in the dorms in college, guys would often say that it had "been over 2 weeks since I had sex. I need to find a woman fast..." And that was pretty common. It wasn't even about love for a girlfriend, but simply having sex with a woman, and bragging about it.
2 weeks?
But all gay people should live there whole life celebate?
I could understand it if I could see the harm.
If you see someone who has a meth habit, you see them not eating, spending all their money on drugs, making risky decisions, not sleeping, their body starts to look ghostly, they often lose jobs, relationships, etc.
The same can be said of alcoholism.
If you have a friend that tells you that he is cheating on his wife despite your advice against it, you watch how often he has to lie, the break of trust between him and his wife, possible STD infection, possible destruction of their family.
There were two gay guys who left New Direction.
The one said that he has his first kiss (from a man) at 27. When asked how it was, he said, "It was amazing. I was really happy. It didn't feel bad, or wrong, or disgusting. I felt a really intense love."
The other man talks of also meeting someone. Suddenly, his friends are asking what happened to him, if he was on medication, because suddenly, he seemed happy for the first time, and smiling, and confident, and funny, instead of the usual cloud of depression that he walked around with.
I fail to see how that is 'sin.' It isn't harmful to themselves or others. It makes them happy. They have companionship, they learn about trust, self sacrifice, honesty, etc.
But the other let to self hatred and depression. He was convinced that God loathed him for being gay, and needed to become acceptable to God. He said that at one of the prayer meetings, they were being freed from the bondage of sin of being gay. The room sang, "Free at last", except he realized that he wasn't free. He was still gay, just telling himself that he was free from it.
His friend adds, "They claim to have a 30% success rate, and while I stood there, realizing that I wasn't being "healed of homosexuality" nor "freed of homosexuality", I felt as bad as when I came in, if not worse. Then I thought, what about the other 70%, like me?