Never once in my years of study or discussions with my brother (or his fellow scientists) has anyone EVER suggested that explosions are not neccesarily a quick thing but could rather happen over millions of years.
YOu weren't dealing with paleontologists.

Every discipline -- law, history, plumbing, etc. -- has it's own perspective and how it uses the language among members. For instance, physicists talk of the "Big Bang", but there was no noise involved.
Paleontologists deal in long spans of time. The average bedding plane represents
50,000 years. This is an "instant" to a paleontologist. To the rest of us it is a really long time.
Why is it that this is the first time I have heard this in over 20 years of discussion about evolution theory?
I don't know, because it has been out there in scientific responses to creationists for at least 20 years. If you go to the book
Science and Creationism published in 1982, you will find this. TalkOrigins has had it up for at least the 10 years I've been involved in discussing evolution vs creationism. Maybe you have avoided the information?
Yes I understand how scientists work. You see they compete for funding so they don't actually care what the other person is doing or if it is right or wrong. They just want to discredit them so they can get that persons funding.
Absolutely NOT! Yes, we "compete" for funding, but this isn't done the way you think. We all submit grants for what we want to do. The grants are graded
anonymously by other scientists and scored on their scientific merit. I've served on study sections. Each grant gets scored on its own merits and ignores what other people are doing.
This is different to what Richard Dawkins tries to suggest is the norm. He suggests that scientists are more than happy to be proven wrong.
Yes, we are. What you don't understand, Dag, is that when we are "right", we do that by proving
all the alternatives to be wrong. Science works by falsification. We can't "prove" by the deductive logic used by science. Instead, we falsify hypotheses. There are usually a number of hypotheses that can explain a given bit of data. The "controls" for an experiment are there to disprove all the hypotheses but one. So, when scientists say "proved", that is shorthand for "I've disproved all the alternative explanations I can think of."
One example of a scientist willing to be shown to be wrong:
C Seife, Radical gravity theory hits large scale snag. Science 292: 1629, June1, 2001 MOND (modified Newtonian dynamics) alters some properties of gravity to eliminate the need for dark matter, but doesn't fit with General Relativity. Recent observations show it is at odds with observationsof galaxy clusters. "Missing" peak in CMB thought support for MOND, but peak found. The data "disagree very strongly with MOND's prediction," says Aguirre. "MOND is not a viable alternative to dark matter in clusters."
"As its inventor, I would like it [MOND] to be a revolution, but I look at it coolly," says Milgrom. "I will be very sad, but not shocked if turns out to be dark matter."
In being a scientist, you do not get emotionally attached to "your" hypothesis.