- Nov 2, 2003
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I know doctor's wives sometimes refer to being a "doctor's widow," because they don't see their husbands much. Lately I feel like a church widow, but I'm not sure what (if anything) to do about it. My husband works Monday-Saturday 7:30-4:30, and I teach Monday-Thursday 6-9pm, so one of us is home with the baby all the time, but we don't see a lot of eachother. It has been pretty stressful, but he keeps volunteering for stuff at church (chaperoning stuff, reading for extra services, etc) on top of it. And of course if he's doing that stuff I'm watching the baby, so that's several more hours we're apart. Besides that, he's teaching Sunday school, which is during Matins before liturgy, so either we have to take separate cars, in which case I am trying to get myself and the baby ready alone, or I have to try to take a three-month-old to three straight hours of church. I've tried both ways, and it's a lose-lose situation.
If it were a bowling league or something, I would have no problem asking him to quit. But how do you ask someone not to teach Sunday school or clean up after the church festival without sounding like a jerk? We were really active in our home parish, but that parish needed us more and we were unmarried and childless when we were there. Now we go to a bigger, more financially secure parish with lots of people who aren't burning the candle at seven ends who can do this stuff. But since husband never says no, he always gets asked.
Help!
If it were a bowling league or something, I would have no problem asking him to quit. But how do you ask someone not to teach Sunday school or clean up after the church festival without sounding like a jerk? We were really active in our home parish, but that parish needed us more and we were unmarried and childless when we were there. Now we go to a bigger, more financially secure parish with lots of people who aren't burning the candle at seven ends who can do this stuff. But since husband never says no, he always gets asked.
Help!