Hello all who take the time to read and respond,
I have a problem that I would like others' input on. I am currently engaged. I dated my fiancé for 5 months before asking her to marry me, and the wedding is five months from now, in August. There is some distance between us, so we only get the opportunity to physically see each other every few months. When I asked her to marry me I did not have any doubts, I believed what we were doing was, though quicker than normal, the right move. She is a God fearing woman and would make a great wife. The problem I am facing is that in the last few weeks I have begun having doubts. The doubts I have are questions such as do I really want to be married right now? Am I really going to be able to give this woman every part of my being at this time in my life? I believe there is never going to be that "perfect time" to get married, that there will always be something else going on, but I do not know if I truly long to be married right now, or if the thought of marriage and companionship is more alluring to me. I think I should be excited to be starting a life with someone, not wondering if I am really going to enjoy whats to come, or have to work at hiding negative feelings once married(feelings that could be avoided if my doubts are true). This is very troublesome to me because I hold marriage and engagement in a very high place. There is no option of divorce once wed.
So, I would like to hear anyone's opinion on my situation. Would you advise burying the doubts and going ahead with the wedding, or heed the doubts I am having, and possibly extend the engagement or end the relationship? Thank uou everyone who takes the time to respond, it is very much appreciated.
I have a problem that I would like others' input on. I am currently engaged. I dated my fiancé for 5 months before asking her to marry me, and the wedding is five months from now, in August. There is some distance between us, so we only get the opportunity to physically see each other every few months. When I asked her to marry me I did not have any doubts, I believed what we were doing was, though quicker than normal, the right move. She is a God fearing woman and would make a great wife. The problem I am facing is that in the last few weeks I have begun having doubts. The doubts I have are questions such as do I really want to be married right now? Am I really going to be able to give this woman every part of my being at this time in my life? I believe there is never going to be that "perfect time" to get married, that there will always be something else going on, but I do not know if I truly long to be married right now, or if the thought of marriage and companionship is more alluring to me. I think I should be excited to be starting a life with someone, not wondering if I am really going to enjoy whats to come, or have to work at hiding negative feelings once married(feelings that could be avoided if my doubts are true). This is very troublesome to me because I hold marriage and engagement in a very high place. There is no option of divorce once wed.
So, I would like to hear anyone's opinion on my situation. Would you advise burying the doubts and going ahead with the wedding, or heed the doubts I am having, and possibly extend the engagement or end the relationship? Thank uou everyone who takes the time to respond, it is very much appreciated.