Autumnleaf said:
Wives are to submit to their husbands and their husbands are to submit to God per the Bible. God wants submission and he has enslaved his people, had them almost annihilated at times, and allowed them to starve to gain that submission. He even drown the world to get submissive people back in the majority. God has no qualms about using force to make us submit to his authority. Should your husband do likewise or should he let you walk all over him?
I guess it all depends on how one interprets the Bible and how one approaches one's faith. The stories of God's displeasure during various periods of man's development, for me, do not translate into a direct order from God to a husband to force his wife into submission. God enjoined a husband to love his wife, not to beat or force her into anything.
Again, the highlighted statement belies a stringent black and white view, that unless a man forces a woman to submit, then she "walks all over him". To purely view a relationship between a man and woman as a power arrangement, in which the man must be the boss and the woman the employee, and anything other renders the man the "weak one", does take into account the very real complexities of human personality and interpersonal relationships. Your ideal arrangement, if "forced", would be unnatural, and supremely unloving.
And please keep my husband out of it - you have absolutely no idea of our own personal relationship, as I do not suppose of yours.
But, if you wish, please inform us of how a man "forces" his wife to submit. What are the techniques, if physical force is not being used: harsh words, yelling, anger, a threatening "look", a show of physical power like punching the wall or throwing things? Perhaps your techniques may benefit a husband who is not as successful in forcing his wife to submit as some.
With more wives filing for divorce than husbands and the divorce rate at 50% I don't care to elaborate further on how disrespected men are in the US. The freedom America grants its citizens does not always translate into a Godly society or even a happy one.
Can you give me a source for your assertion that more women than men file for divorce? I took a quick gander at some sources, but couldn't find a quick link to that statistic. Even IF more women filed for divorce than men, how is that a confirmation that men are "disrespected"? Is it possible for women to be disrespected too? Or don't they count on the Disrespect Meter?
Interesting though that apparently way more women are stalked by ex-husbands than men are stalked by ex-wives - so, I guess women figure more on the Stalking Meter.
http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml
Yes, freedom comes with its price, in many respects. But I would rather live in a free society such as ours, as compared to say, a country like Iran or Saudi Arabia, which can be perceived as "godly". And I disagree with you about a free society being happy - compared to countries that don't allow personal freedoms, we are indeed far happier. We have that choice and can take personal responsibility for our decisions and choices, unlike other despotic, theocratic countries.