Leanna said:
No I mean it doesnt matter if its a sin.... thats besides the point to me. The point is that I think people who are into such things need counseling because they are unbalanced. So... not legalism... because its not about Christianity at all... I hope that makes sense. Its sort of like if I see someone with body dismorphic disorder. No, its not a sin. But are they emotionally well? No. If I see someone with anorexia. Is it a sin? No, it is not a sin. But are they well? No. For this issue.... same thing.
Regardless of whethe it is a sin, it is definitely Satan leading people astray.
I don't know if this will be helpful at all, but I've been trying to imagine in what possible circumstances any intelligent woman would ever submit to such a scenario. Why would she feel she needed it? What kind of man would agree? As I was pondering this, my mind drifted back to a relationship I had with someone before my husband and I was chilled to the bone.
When I was in my late teens I was recovering from an abusive home life and also in a long-term relationship with a guy, who I am afraid to say, was sort of a weenie. He was flighty, irresponsible, undirected, morally and spiritually weak but I, seeing him in his possibilities rather than his actuality, thought myself quite in love with him. The thing is, deep down, I had no respect for him. If we had gotten married there would have been no question that I would have dominated the marriage intellectually, rationally and spiritually. I believe in submission and so did he, but because I saw him as so unable to prove his worthiness as leader, I think it would have been impossible.
But...
There is one thing he would have had over me and that is physical power. Head to head in a game of wits, he would lose, but physically (he was a big guy), I would have had no chance. I was already a little messed up as far as love and pain goes and having the man dominate you physically at least gives the appearence and feeling of being submissive. He feels like he's in control. The woman submits to his physical attempts to 'direct' her. It's sort of like play acting at submission.
I think DD sucks people in and gets them stuck there because they simply don't have the maturity to make the relationship work in a healthy way. They're running from their reason and they're running from the truth. They're both terrified. They revert to the most basic form of relationship - the physical dominance of one being over another.