My friend wants to know if it's a sin to marry without a marriage license. She is planning on marrying her boyfriend but she said all of her Christian friends and family are giving her a hard time about it because her boyfriend can't sign a marriage license or he'll lose his disability check. They pretty much tell her that if she doesn't have a marriage license, she'll be living in sin and will no longer be considered a Christian. But she doesn't believe that. She thinks it's not a sin but her Christian friends will not stop pestering her about it. What are your opinions?
I can understand if someone is capable of signing a paper and doesn't do it, then that wouldn't be right. But if the person legally can't do it and that person is deeply in love, what do they do? Suffer all because of what one Christian thinks? I personally think denominations ruin Christianity. They all have different beliefs and if you don't listen to one of those beliefs, you're considered not a Christian. For example, The non denominational church believes it's not a sin to drink alcohol and yet the baptists do. Which one is right? Which one is wrong? Who's going to hell and who isn't? It's not right that the baptists get to point fingers at a person for believing differently. Am I right?
Wow. So many posts on this.
First: The Bible says you should obey the laws of the land. The laws of the land is that you get a legal marriage.
Second: When absolutely everyone is warning you about something, you should likely heed their warning. If everyone, both friends and family, are saying not to do this, then you shouldn't do this.
Third: This man is not legally unable to sign a marriage license. He is refusing to sign it, because he'll lose tax-payer money.
Straight up, if I was this man, I would sign the papers, and forget the disability money. Is the woman you love, less important than disability money? Really? That is pathetic, and likely shows a lack of character, that her friends and family are warning her about.
Fourth: Legal marriage is a protection, largely for the woman.
You need to understand that without legal marriage, this man can do a massive amount of harm to this lady. And don't say "he would never do that!" because every girl says "he'll never do that" until he brings up a new girl, and starts sleeping with her in the house you paid for.
Without legal marriage, if they buy a house together, this man can invite another woman into his house, and the lady has no say in the matter. She can't divorce, and force the sale of the house. He'll just have it, and she'll have nothing.
Without marriage, if they buy a car together, he can drive off with a new girlfriend, and there is nothing she can do. She can't divorce, and force the sale of the car, so she can get her money back. She can't even call police, because he'll have legal rights to the car.
Without marriage, if he dies, she will be treated as a guest at the funeral, sitting in the back with no honor. Any benefits or insurance will go to next in family, excluding her.
Everything I am listing here, are things that have actually happened. There was one lady, "married in the eyes of god" as they say, but was not legally married. He died. The family sold the car, so she had no car. They sold the house, so she had no place to live. And at the funeral, she was sitting in the back, ignored, while the ex-wife of the man was up front with the family. Moreover, he had life insurance, but it went to the family, not her.
Listen to me very carefully.... if you want to argue about whether 'god sees us as married'... that's fine.... but in the eyes of the law, if you are not married you are absolutely nothing. He dies, everything goes to his family. You get nothing. You are treated as nothing. Legally, you do not exist.
If you do not get married, you have zero protection. You are begging for a disaster.
And don't say "He would never do that!" Because every single girl says "he would never do that" until they do. Until he does drive off in the car you paid for, with his new girlfriend.
So my answer to you is, this girl should tell this man, that he needs to choose between his benefits, or his marriage. One or the other.
That's my advice, take it or leave it.