I used to think it was OK. I told myself that when Isaac married Rebekah, he took her into his mother's tent, and she became his wife. If that's all there is to it, then why does the government need to get involved?
Then too, there is the matter of disability. As someone who is disabled, getting married did cost me my monthly disability benefits. I still cannot work yet. My husband has to fully support me now, and he has to pay for my medical coverage. If we had gone to a liberal-minded religious institution, exchanged vows without government involvement, and considered each other husband and wife afterward, I would still be drawing government assistance, but he didn't want to do it that way.
If two people on disability get married, their total benefits are decreased 25%. Yet if they only live together , there is no decrease, and each can get their full monthly check and health coverage. In this situation, what is the advantage to getting married?
So, I used to think it was fine to exchange vows without registering the marriage in a courthouse somewhere, and consider yourselves married afterward. But since then it has been explained to me that this is demonstrating a lack of faith in God. Who should we put our faith in, to provide and take care of us? The government? Or Him?