Hello,
I'll ask my question first.
When you are in a relationship that seems to have a Devine hand leading it, but you mutually decide that the timing is off, does God reunite them when they have achieved their personal growth? And can you know/will God tell you if it is his will?
And here is the background.
I am a 40 year old Widow with an 11 & 3 year old.
I began dating a widower (will call him John) with a 9 & 6 year old. We knew of each other when we were married. His wife passed away 5 years ago. When my husband had his heart attack and was still in the hospital, John reached out to me to offer any help. When my husband passed, 32 days later, he came to the service. From then John contacted me off and on to check in on us. It became more and more frequent until we were texting daily. That turned into multiple times a day.
We started call me ng each other to talk during the 3rd month. Month 4 we finally started hanging out in person. John and his family live about an hour away. We we're seeing each other every weekend. We never argued or fought. We had deep discussions though. About the future, our kids, and what the time frame might look like.
He told me that I was the love of his life and that he felt Good had made me for him. That God had crossed our paths because we were meant to be together. I agreed. I know he purchased an engagement ring and we were starting to talk about houses and what we would need.He told me everyday that he couldn't wait to marry me. But the last month things were crazy. With work, soccer, baseball, softball, and tee-ball. We weren't able to spend as much time together. I was also scared and started to worry about ripping my kids up while they are still healing (and so am I) from the sudden and traumatic loss of their father. So a couple of days ago we had a long talk and mutually decided to take it down a knotch to friendship. I asked if he still loved me. He laughed and said that he knew I would ask that. He gave me a huge smile and told me that all he would say is that he deeply cared, and had a deep affection for me and my kids. But the timing is just off. He said he lost his ability to focus on my family's needs because he was so focused on our future together. He apologized. I apologized for the fact that we needed more time.
There is a great love here. It feels very meant to be. We have so many similarities and things in common, our children love each other and his kids already call my son brother. My kids love John and vice versa. The only issue here is my family needing time to heal and our readiness to move. I feel he has stepped to the side and is down playing emotions so that he will not feel that they are hindering our healing. We have plans to hang out in the future. He said he can't wait to make more memories with us.
I originally gave him a date of July 2019 to start planning a move. And I wonder if he is just going to hold back until then.
But will God put us together at the right time? I have prayed and asked for his guidance. Whenever I pray for mine and Johns relationship I have a feeling of peace and calm. Is this a good sign? I am just looking for your Christian Views/Advice and any possible related scripture that I could study. Thank you all so much for reading this God bless each of you
I'll ask my question first.
When you are in a relationship that seems to have a Devine hand leading it, but you mutually decide that the timing is off, does God reunite them when they have achieved their personal growth? And can you know/will God tell you if it is his will?
And here is the background.
I am a 40 year old Widow with an 11 & 3 year old.
I began dating a widower (will call him John) with a 9 & 6 year old. We knew of each other when we were married. His wife passed away 5 years ago. When my husband had his heart attack and was still in the hospital, John reached out to me to offer any help. When my husband passed, 32 days later, he came to the service. From then John contacted me off and on to check in on us. It became more and more frequent until we were texting daily. That turned into multiple times a day.
We started call me ng each other to talk during the 3rd month. Month 4 we finally started hanging out in person. John and his family live about an hour away. We we're seeing each other every weekend. We never argued or fought. We had deep discussions though. About the future, our kids, and what the time frame might look like.
He told me that I was the love of his life and that he felt Good had made me for him. That God had crossed our paths because we were meant to be together. I agreed. I know he purchased an engagement ring and we were starting to talk about houses and what we would need.He told me everyday that he couldn't wait to marry me. But the last month things were crazy. With work, soccer, baseball, softball, and tee-ball. We weren't able to spend as much time together. I was also scared and started to worry about ripping my kids up while they are still healing (and so am I) from the sudden and traumatic loss of their father. So a couple of days ago we had a long talk and mutually decided to take it down a knotch to friendship. I asked if he still loved me. He laughed and said that he knew I would ask that. He gave me a huge smile and told me that all he would say is that he deeply cared, and had a deep affection for me and my kids. But the timing is just off. He said he lost his ability to focus on my family's needs because he was so focused on our future together. He apologized. I apologized for the fact that we needed more time.
There is a great love here. It feels very meant to be. We have so many similarities and things in common, our children love each other and his kids already call my son brother. My kids love John and vice versa. The only issue here is my family needing time to heal and our readiness to move. I feel he has stepped to the side and is down playing emotions so that he will not feel that they are hindering our healing. We have plans to hang out in the future. He said he can't wait to make more memories with us.
I originally gave him a date of July 2019 to start planning a move. And I wonder if he is just going to hold back until then.
But will God put us together at the right time? I have prayed and asked for his guidance. Whenever I pray for mine and Johns relationship I have a feeling of peace and calm. Is this a good sign? I am just looking for your Christian Views/Advice and any possible related scripture that I could study. Thank you all so much for reading this God bless each of you