- Sep 29, 2022
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I was single for 17 years. I was engaged maybe 5 times. I told God if it was not His will then slam the door shut and He did. Finally, He felt I was ready and He provided me with a wife. Not all I thought I wanted or needed. But she is a wonderful loving, caring, giving person. We have been married for 25 years.
In general God puts His love in us for people. He loves them through us. We are a vessel used for honor. Even if she loved me as much as she loves her brothers. That is a lot more than a lot of people have in their marriage. Even if we can not get the marriage to work. We are still brothers and sisters in the Lord and she is still my friend.
Thanks for sharing brother. My mentor once said about marriage, "What's love got anything to do with it?" (meaning romantic love / hollywoodized love). He claims that western/hollywood-ized love is really dangerous. Love doesn't have anything to do with marriage. But as you were alluding to, marriage is about Christ love, and loving each other the way Christ loved the church, edifying her, honoring her, protecting her, and glorifying God in our marriage. Romantic love should really have nothing to do with marriage but we grew up in that culture and idolized that relationship. I always have and still do focus primarily on a romantic love I am seeking as a Christian even though it appears that it is often just silly boy notions and I need to mature to see what marriage is really about...not puppy love and romantic love.
Not that I condone or desire arranged marriages as it was customarily done in the past, but I can see why in arranged marriages, you have to learn how to truly love someone because you didn't pick them nor were you romantically attracted to them. Someone was just given you and they are a child of God and we needed to learn how to live out that love. It's a very selfless and mature love. But today, we live in a culture where we marry who we are attracted to, romantically. That does seem to be a very shallow and silly boy way even though I desire it.
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