I was in my DivorceCare support group at my church this past Thursday. One of the new members asked a question. This member was a mirror of my situation and well 4 of the other 7 members. Do wives who left really come back? Their wives gave them the same ILYBNILWY(I love you but not in love with you speech) out of the blue and velocity of the wife instigated divorce was dizzying after that. Our DivorceCare counselor offered us sobering stats that 80% of marriages are instigated by the woman and that in his 5 years and seeing dozens upon dozens of men where the wife left he has yet to see one come back and reconcile. I am hoping in my situation I can be the one, and I have done the work on myself, prayed till my knees bled and cried an awfully a lot but my wives attitude has not changed enough to reconcile. She is still in the world, happy to be unyoked form the marriages, dates, goes out with her friends and seems to be happy. I just can't see her changing her mind but are waiting for God's opportunity to soften her heart if she wants to. I watched Fireproof and well cried much of the last third of it.