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do u ever want to give up?

Discussion in 'General Struggles' started by Hopeful, Feb 4, 2003.

  1. Hopeful

    Hopeful Active Member

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    i do :(, i dont know what to do anymore, everything i do seems bad, everytime i talk to someone, i feel bad, everytime i study, i fail, every time i fail at something, i try even harder, but i fail even harder. i thought i could to it, u know, one day at a time, but now, all i see is a bleak future of continuous failure and i dont know what to do

    i know i will probably get a bunch of scriptures in reply ;). when i read the bible, i read all these passages that give me hope, but that hope only lasts for a brief, very brief instant :(

    sounds like i'm depressed? well i went to see the school counselour and we had about 9 sessions, which is what we are allowed per year, well at the end of the sessions, it was just like, bye bye, uh? no evaluations no nothing, so i get the feeling this is normal, and i am just paranoid, or lazy, or dumb, or something and i really dont want to be.

     
     
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  2. Mr.Cheese

    Mr.Cheese Legend

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    Hmm...sounds like a dumb counselor.
    For now. Hang in there. No matter how absurd it feels to keep trying. You'll get through it eventually. It feels like crawling onto dry land after being stuck drifting in the pitching ocean for what seems forever. It's like sunshine.
    Our token scripture for this evening comes from Psalms 119:81. It gives you something to hang onto while you feel like a gooey pile of mung.
    For now, try this:
    Get to bed at a reasonable hour. Get up at a reasonable hour. Eat well. Get some veggies and fruit in you. Get some form of exercise. Even walking around campus can help. You sound like you are experiencing the sophomore/junior blah. It's like walking through a desert with no water. But you'll make it. What else. Don't listen to depressing music. Set small goals every day that can be achieved easily. Taking out the trash or doing the dishes can be good starts. Or do something similar but study related.
    Hang in there and never say die!
     
  3. OracleX

    OracleX Healer of Broken Hearts

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    First of all - it sounds like you got a bum deal from that counselor. A poor counselor can do so much more damage than good. It is unfortunate that you have gone so many sessions with one that doesn't seem to care about your well being.

    Do you read the Bible and pray every day and are you part of a good church?

    I will pray for you.
     
  4. Lotuspetal_uk

    Lotuspetal_uk Say 'CHEESE!!!!'

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    As someone wrote earlier, it's a shame that the counselor was no help!

    I guess it must be school life :( - when I was a teacher there seemed to be too many days just like what you described and I'll admit it sometimes got disheartening. But even now, when I have days like you've described I remind myself of the following verse which helps me a lot:

    "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go" (Joshua 1:9 NIV)

    Be encouraged and know that we'll all be praying for you!!
     
  5. Sharky

    Sharky Rockin dude!

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    Hey man, see if the problems you're having are big or small. If they're small, just deal with it quickly and move on. Don't let that stuff slow you down because you're on the path to God's plan. Just kick it out of the way and keep moving forward.

    If it's a big problem, its probably there for a reason, you may need to figure it out whether or not God has put that problem there for you to get through so you may grow stronger.

    If it's depression you're facing, and let me tell you it sure sounds like it :), then you might have to put some things into balance. If work is too much, find a way to loosen it up. If you can't try to have fun at work. If it's just panic attacks, get some excercise, eat right and lots of sleep. This kind of depression comes when your brain just overheats with small problems. Excecise kinda stretches that brain for a while with something fresh.

    I trust you know that God is there with you. He's always there. Bumpy roads are painful to get through but there's joy at the end of every road.

    BTW that cousellor isn't bad, i'm sure he's just tired. Lean on God for a while or us if you want :). Take a break from the highway.
     
  6. booger

    booger GOD PICKED ME!!!!

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    Through everything I have been through this verse eases my worry and discomfort.

    Psalms 55:22 KJVA

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    Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.

    So just goto GOD and hand him your problems because he has big hands and he can hold them all.
     
  7. DaveKerwin

    DaveKerwin Represent the Most High

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    Hopeful,

    When did these feelings start?

    What circumstances were you in at the time?

    What circumstances are you in now?
     
  8. JesusCult

    JesusCult New Member

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    Dear Hopeful,

    In addition to the advice provided above, please remember that we are in a spiritual war [II Corinthians 10:4].  The battle we face is in our minds because satan continually launches spiritual attacks against Christians.  This is why Scriptures says that we are to be renewed in the "spirit" of our minds [Ephesians 4:23].  Even Jesus was crucified on a skull (Golgotha) [Matthew 27:33, Mark 15:22; John 19:17] illustrating that we too must crucify the mind of the old man (through the power of the Holy Spirit) so that we can put on the mind of Christ. 

    I too become discouraged at times, and I am sure that most Christians do.  But at such times, it is imperative that we understand the cause of these spiritual attacks, and know how to address them.  This is a clear indication to run to the Word of God.  When God tells us to keep our affections above, He is telling us to keep our mind on Him because He knows that He is the only one who can help us whether the storm.

    Try and shut out whatever it is in your life that is speaking worry or anxiety to you and focus instead on God.  Spend some time in sanctification with Him (prayer & fasting) until His Spirit can strengthen and revive you.  Ask other like-minded believers to join you in prayer and I am sure there are those here who will pray for you as well.

    God Bless!

     
     
  9. Hopeful

    Hopeful Active Member

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    sophomore/junior blah? haha i never knew that existed, i guess i should look forward to senior year, uh? ;)

    thanks for the encouragement though :)
    i do read the bible, not frequently though cos sometimes i just get more dejected when i read it and nothing happens, but i will try and read it more often. part of a good church? i dont know, i attend a church on campus, i dont know if i am part of it but i go there every sunday, almost.



     
     
  10. Hopeful

    Hopeful Active Member

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    thanks u guys! really!

    the counselour wasnt bad, she was very nice but all we did was talk, i guess at the end i was expecting a formal evaluation but ....nothing
     
  11. Hopeful

    Hopeful Active Member

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    a year ago i guess

    uhm...school, work......

    school, work....
     
  12. GodOwnsMe

    GodOwnsMe Well-Known Member

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    :hug: know a bit what you're talking about...
    With God you'll make it all the way, no matter how tired you get,
    God forgives you when you fail, keep Fully Relying On Him, He'll not let you down !!!!!
    I know it's sometimes hard to not let all the bad circumstances get You down. But God's always bigger than that, even when it totally doesn't feel/seem like it :pink:
    God, please sooo do the best for Hopeful, fix whatever needs to be, fill His heart with Your amazing love and let him know & understand ho much You love him. In Jesus' name. Amen :hug: God Bless you !! :)
     
  13. Mr.Cheese

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    One thing I learned from my depression is that feelings are real. They can be deceptive, but they are real. We rely on them too much to gauge our spiritual life. The bible gives us plenty of reasons to be hopeful. God loves us and cares for us. He thinks a lot of us. So when you don't feel that way, your feelings don't nullify the word of God. So in the mean time, while you're putting up with feeling dejected, you can remember that your faith isn't based on how you feel. Does that make any sense? It gives you a patient endurance, a hope that you'll be able to crawl out of the emotional mud eventually. So for now you just hang in there and do the best you can. Medication is what straightened me out.
     
  14. speechless

    speechless Regular Member

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    You sound like me. I feel hopeless. When I read the bible, I feel comforted for only a brief period of time, but then I realized I wasn't consistant in my prayer, and I was putting my all into it, but now that I did I feel much better and less depressed. Depression takes a toll on someone's life, and it could get pretty tough. Try to talk to a pastor, a youth worker or a Christian counsellor, I'm sure they can help you through the dark time you are going through. Sorry if I am not much help....

    These verses helped me a lot.

    "The sun will no more be your light by day, nor will the brightness of the moon shine on you, for the Lord will be your everlasting light, and your God will be your glory. Your sun will never set again, and your moon will wane no more; the Lord will be your everlasting light, and your days of sorrow will end." Isaiah 60:19-20

    "A man's spirit sustains him in sickness, but a crushed spirit who can bear?" Proverbs 18:14

    "My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever." Psalms 73:26

    "I have set the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken." Psalms 16:8

    "Blessed are those who mourin, for they will be comforted." Matthew 5:4

    "Praise be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,
    the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort,
    who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble witht he comfort we ourselves have received from God.
    For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives,
    so also through Christ our comfort overflows." 2 Corinthians 1:3-5

    "At my first defense,
    no one came to my support,
    but everyone deserted me.
    May it not be held against them.
    But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength,
    so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed
    and all the Gentiles might hear it.
    And I was delivered from the lion's mouth.
    The Lord will rescue me from every evil attack
    and will bring me safely to this heavenly kingdom.
    To him be glory for ever and ever. Amen." 2 Timothy 4:16-18

    God Bless.
     
  15. repentandbelieve

    repentandbelieve Senior Veteran

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    Hopeful, keep living up to your name. Don't yield to despair. Fight the good fight of faith.
    Through prayer ask the lord to reveal to you exactly what it is that is keeping you from having His joy and His peace.
     
  16. GraftMeIn

    GraftMeIn The Masters Gardener

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    Hopeful,
    Sounds like you only have another year to go in school. Might seem like a long time right now, but aren't you thankful you don't have to start all over again being a freshman!

    Are you having problems with certain subjects? maybe you can find a study partner for those subjects if that's the case.

    As far as reading the Bible, pray for understanding when you do. We are sent the Holy Spirit to bring us understanding into Gods Word. But we have to be reading it in order for it to bring us any understanding.
     
  17. Hopeful

    Hopeful Active Member

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    thanks u guys :) i really do feel better, especially since i found this forum, and its just great to be surrounded by such devout christians. thanks again.

    speechless, u were a big help, and i hope u feel better too :)

    Graftmein, i do have one more year, but i want to go to medical school so thats like another 4 years and then residency, and oh the list is endless, but i am very hopeful :D

    thanks again everyone

     
     
  18. GraftMeIn

    GraftMeIn The Masters Gardener

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    I'm glad to hear you are hopeful :)

    I'm sure the list goes goes on, but try and keep in mind it will all happen over a period of time. Not all at once, so just take things as they come if you can, without the worry about what the outcome of it all will be. I know that's much easier said than done, but it does help.

    I have been praying for you, and will continue to do so.
     
  19. Caedmon

    Caedmon kawaii Supporter

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    Dang, let me tell you, those little easy goals are freaking awesome. I tried that today, even without having read this post before. :D I've been really depressed lately, but today when I got home, I decided that I was going to do 3 little baby things. They weren't huge, they were little. I said that I was going to "play" with my weightbench, put my plastic dividers in my notebook, and read my RCIA handout before class tonight. THAT'S IT!!! That's all I did. But I freaking got it done. I can't believe I actually did something today. I am very proud of myself. Maybe other people don't give a dang, but then, I don't give a darn about their attitude, so we're equal.

    I also have been praying a lot in the campus chapel. Today I stopped by the chapel 2 or 3 times. I know that I walked in this morning and kneeled and prayed with my Rosary. Then I came back after lunch and did it again. It helped me feel a lot better, and I had a test today, so I am proud of myself for feeling good even though I had a test. I did good today. :D

    Don't worry Hopeful, I will pray for you. I can't do too much stuff, but I can pray. I hope you feel better, I really do. :hug:
     
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