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do i do what makes them happy or me happy

Discussion in 'Struggles by Non-Christians' started by Servant _Of_Christ, Oct 14, 2017.

  1. Servant _Of_Christ

    Servant _Of_Christ _Lily_76 Supporter

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    i dont know where to start ...some of you might remember my post in christian advice about being a Christian Buddhist i want to go down this path but i feel like am being made to go with just Christianity ...my husband is Christian and became Christian because of me we go to church every Sunday and we get involved in the church i dont want to give up the church but i dont feel like i can cope with out the Buddhism every time io try and go on without the Buddhism i feel suicidal and upset without i dont care about myself anymore because i have to keep everyone else happy all my life i have done things to makes others happy and not myself am 40 years old and av never had anything the way i want it my wedding was what my mother wanted me to do my husband is the only thing i have in my life i have no children and will have none i want to do things that would make me happy i feel so bad not following what i want to follow i feel like hurting myself and taking an OD my mental health problems with voices and seeing thing and i have OCD normally most of the time my husband is with me most of the time i spend most of my days with my husband and friends at groups for people with mental health problem some of them run by my pastor who is very against me mixing faith together i see him once a month to talk about things as i have no one else to talk to my friends also says it a bad idea i want to do this i feel so bad me not doing it also me and my husband have been fighting over this so much but he now says to do what ever makes me happy its just if my pastor find out i am doing this i will have to explain to him
    i dont have the words to fight him or at lest for him to understand my husband says he will not tell him unless i become mentally unwell because of this and mixing myself up with it

    i want to do what i feel is right
    i hope it was ok for me to post this here my last post was locked because i posted it in the christian advice id like non christian advice now
     
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  2. Mskriskris

    Mskriskris Well-Known Member

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    Well I think this post should be fine here.

    But off the bat, the Christian Buddhist thing can't mix, its just two different doctrines with different systems in place. It won't work out. I'm pretty sure people try to, but it ends up being a scenario where the person basically is making their own doctrine.

    I feel like alot of times people get really zoomed in to the system of the belief (religion), the structures, and striving to mold it to a point that they feel satisfy and comfortable, and find out they are still unsure and uncomfortable, and it just like being in a hamster wheel of feelings. Is Buddhism for me, is christianity for me, how will it work, can I make it work, can i mesh it etc.

    My advice: Take a break from trying to figure things out yourself, trying to be happy, and focus first on the relationship with God. Get to know God. Seek Him out. Learn how to trust Him, and His thoughts on things. Learn what He thinks of you, and how to navigate in this life. Ask Him questions, and get to know the Word. Know the Holy Spirit. Just get to know Him. Day by day, He will reveal Himself, and the direction to take will be alot clearer. The religion, the system and the structure of the church, will be alot clearer, and how you connect with other people will be alot clearer.

    It takes time, don't rush it.
     
  3. drjean

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    My friend you have posted in the non Christian stuggles forum so I must assume that you are not yet a Christian yourself, though your spouse is and you like the Christian church.

    You can not fully embrace "the mind of Christ" "the mind of God" the full meditation experience that God provides through HIS Spirit until you accept Jesus personally. God's Word tells us this, that you having a "natural" (and not spiritual) mind and being a "natural man" (mankind, human) cannot understand because they are spiritually discerned.

    I mean this to say that while you enjoy the church experience, to me it's obvious you aren't getting the spiritual experience you desire that you get somehow from practicing buddhism, right? What I am saying is once you accept Christ, then you have the fullness of His Spirit and can enjoy a FULL practice of those elements you enjoy with buddhism: GOD came first, everything else is a clone or knock-off of it. So if you think practicing those elements in buddhism helps, wait until you experience them in GOD'S SPIRIT!!!! You are currently practicing buddhism without a True Spirit.

    Accepting Jesus is not difficult, in fact He made it quite easy for us. Jesus, the Son of God, gave His life for our sinful natures, and THEN to prove His power over evil, HE RESURRECTED! "ALL" we have to do (and I did this 50 years ago and it's still great!) is ask Jesus to forgive us! I'm sure you want to experience the full love and joy of GOD.... the meditation and mindfulness and all that is extra stuff we get IN HIS SPIRIT.

    Once you accept Jesus' love for you, the HOLY SPIRIT indwells you. I am sure that if you are feeling better after a buddhistic meditation and precepts, you will very soon be an expert at experiencing the peace of God, and might even be able to help others with this.

    "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved (from eternal damnation: hell.) :prayer:
     
  4. Dave G.

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    Yep, it's not at all you vs any other human being, it's about what does God say. Either you believe the Word of God or you don't, you live by the Word of God or you don't, honor the wishes of God or those of a wooden or stone statue called Buddha. Did Buddha come to earth, die for your sins and come to life again that you might be saved eternally ? This life on earth is a flash in the pan compared with eternity, you are going to live eternally someplace after this life. Take your pick, Heaven or Hell. Buddha offers one , Jesus Christ the other.
     
  5. celestialpearl

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    I tried for years to mesh faiths together. That uncertainty was the eventual end, though it took years to get it through my head. I compromised, reasoned, rationalized..all the tactics of the world to make faith fit into the box I wanted. I only felt truly at peace, when I realized it wasn't about what I wanted, but what God wanted. I couldn't have it both ways.

    For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; but whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel's, the same shall save it. Mark 8:35

    Prayers!
     
  6. Servant _Of_Christ

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    thank you both all for replying to me i posted here because am christian and my last post got closed because i posted in a christian area about this and i just pick here randomly i have joined a christian church a month ago and i started to get obsessed with Buddhism wanting to learn more and more I am saved but i dont feel like am saved never really learned about Jesus much and what i did as a child i have forgotten due to trauma i have started to go to bible class and learn but then i got this in my head that Buddhism and Christianity could work ITS INSANE AM INSANE i cant feel the Holy Spirit been unable to at all i tried to learn more about jesus and the bible my mental health is also very bad i have in the past followed other faiths because i got obsessed with them many time its part of my mental health i must admit i sound crazy WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME ???
     
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  7. Dave G.

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    This is the kind of peace you are looking for, the kind that puts your heart at rest:
    Philippians 4:7 NKJV
    and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
     
  8. Dave G.

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    Lilly, if you have not pursued the Lord Jesus Christ, I highly encourage you to do that. He loves You, you need to understand that. Someone who loves you also wants the best for you. But you must first seek Him. Understand that he came to earth to save us and to save you in an eternal after life. Pray to Him, pray to the Father through Jesus, expect that what you come to know going forward was delivered by the Holy Spirit. You need to be practicing in faith, you can't just say oh ya I know Jesus , then drop everything and live your own way and expect to be ministered to by the Holy Spirit. You need to live in the spirit or you cut off your fellowship with the Holy Spirit. Does any of that make any sense ?
     
  9. Servant _Of_Christ

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    thank you ...finding this so hard at the moment i wanted Buddhism to save me from who i am what i am trauma in my life was abuse by others who was trusted to save me they got evil and hurt me a lot
    i feel i cant trust i feel i cant open my heart to that my husband has managed to open my heart but if we keep having fights about am going to drive him away and then i think i will not be here anymore
    i dont want to die and go to hell he told me am going to hell one of the evil ones
     
  10. Dave G.

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    I see, well I think we can all understand just a little bit about abuse, though we certainly have not lived yours.. I'm really sorry that happened to you and I can assure that Jesus feels and understands your hurt more than any of us. He was brutally murdered on a cross for us and for you, willingly because God loves us.

    Regarding your marriage. I'm going to make a suggestion to you right now. Get together with your husband, (assuming you both have accepted Jesus already). And say this prayer together: Holy Spirit, show me my husband (or wife in his case) through your eyes ,not my eyes. I want to see how you see him/her. Then read a little bit in the bible together. Go to church tomorrow too. Also, if you have an argument, resolve it before bedtime each day. If you can't find a resolution, then agree to put it aside. Don't go to bed angry and put God before anything. God is at the top in our lives, all good that is to come trickles down from above. Both of you set your sights on Him. What I'm telling you is getting God at work in your marriage.

    Praise God ! We love you Lilly, the God of the bible loves you ! Buddha doesn't love you.
     
  11. Kenny'sID

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    Please, just dump the Buddhism.

    I know, overly candid, but it just makes things easier. :)
     
  12. Servant _Of_Christ

    Servant _Of_Christ _Lily_76 Supporter

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    i will stop following the Buddhism and focus on Jesus Going to church this morning with my husband and my two nieces i am struggling so much am going to talk to my pastor today if he has time my husband says that am doing the right thing ... i hope things start to get better it so hard right now ...i feel so tired even though i have slept last night
     
  13. AservantofGodandthelordJC

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    Do what brings you to God. No matter what religion you chose, God does not change. Don't do what makes you happy, do what makes God happy and in doing so you will come to know Him truly. As for the people around you, unless they can perform miracles then they don't know anything. Pretending to know is almost the same as not believing at all, when you believe that your beliefs are correct there is no room for what is actually correct.

    (As a side note, I've been led to believe through spiritual sources that Jesus also came as Buddah's father, so both religions are indirectly linked to the same source.)
     
  14. DreamerOfTheHeart

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    What buddhist matter conflicts with Christianity? Buddhism normally isn't something that directly contradicts or conflicts with Christianity, except when it involves worshiping Buddha as a god or God... which Buddha never taught himself.

    I am thinking you have not been doing either correctly.

    Christianity is all about keeping the teachings of Christ in your heart, with the Holy Spirit bringing them to mind and guiding you everyday.

    False Christianity is about anything else. Normally engages a lot of hand movements and sloganeering that either is empty of the teachings, or directing contradicts the teachings.
     
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