Would like to understand better whether a person can be divorced and the remarry
Crazy Liz said:There actually are a few other threads where this question is currently being discussed, or has been discussed lately. I haven't participated in them, but I have noticed them. I've also discussed the issue previously with several of the participants in these threads.
I am posting here to suggest you consider refining your question. "Whether a person can be divorced and the remarry," is a question Christians have been arguing about for centuries.
IMO, this is partly because some interpret "can" as a question of possibility. Can it really happen? Is it possible? When a divorced person claims to have remarried, is this a fact, or a fiction, lie, or deception?"
Others interpret the same words to mean, "Does God permit or approve of it?" "Is it condemned or disapproved?" -- which questions assume it is possible, but probably bad.
The Western Churches have often taken the position that it is impossible, while the Eastern Churches and some protestants take the position that it is possible, but not ideal. I failure to recognize and deal with this difference of opinion often prevents Christians from dealing with the practical issues that face us surrounding this issue. If some say a remarriage is not real, while others say it is real, our inability to deal with this conflict leads us to put on blinders and ignore the problem.
OK. Off my soapbox. I do encourage you to consider what you mean by "can," and clarify your question before assuming you really understand anyone's answer.
Gilligan said:I think you are right I need to reword my question. Can anyone teach me if it is ok in God's eyes to remarry. If so under what circumstances would the person be able to remarry and not be in sin?
Crazy Liz said:Hey, Gilligan! Heartman's a good guy. After many, many arguments, we have grown to respect each other, although we disagree on the ontological question - i.e. the meaning of "can" in your question. In practical matters, I think we largely (though not totally) agree. But the ontological problem is still troublesome.
I think both Matthew and 1 Corinthians argue that this is not just an individual decision-making process, but that the church should be involved in it.
Matthew 19:7
They *said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY ?"
Matthew 19:8
He *said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way.
Matthew 19:9
"And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."
Matthew 19:10
The disciples *said to Him, "If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry."
Matthew 19:11
But He said to them, "Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given.
Matthew 19:12
"For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother's womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it."
Matthew 16:5
And when the disciples came to the other side they had not taken thought to get bread.
Matthew 16:6
And Jesus said to them, Take care to have nothing to do with the leaven of the Pharisees and Sadducees.
Matthew 16:7
And they were reasoning among themselves, saying, We took no bread.
Matthew 16:8
And Jesus, seeing it, said, O you of little faith, why are you reasoning among yourselves, because you have no bread?
Matthew 16:9
Do you still not see, or keep in mind the five cakes of bread of the five thousand, and the number of baskets you took up?
Matthew 16:10
Or the seven cakes of bread of the four thousand, and the number of baskets you took up?
Matthew 16:11
How is it that you do not see that I was not talking to you about bread, but about keeping away from the leaven of the Pharisees and Sadducees?
Matthew 16:12
Then they saw that it was not the leaven of bread which he had in mind, but the teaching of the Pharisees and Sadducees.
Mustaphile said:This statement interests me because I often look at the Gospels as speaking to the individual, whereas the other books of the New Testament to my way of looking at it, talk about the issues the Church faced as it became organised. I have contemplated whether many of things spoken about by Paul were to bring some order to the Church as different issues arose.
My comments on this section is how Jesus was always at odds with with the Pharisees and Sadducees. The were constantly reminding him of the law and saying that he had broken the law. Each time Jesus spoke of their error either by posing questions to them or through parables. What this expresses to me is that no law can cover all situations. Times will arise when exceptions can be made without there being any sin involved.
Chapter 18 is a gem of a chapter.
What is your interpretation of the binding and loosing in heaven and earth?
Do you feel this means that the Church can make special conditions on an individual basis and Jesus will honor that decision in heaven?
The story of the man forgiven for his debt who failed to forgive someone else for their debt is relevant too.
You did mention ,Crazy Liz, that you had some thoughts on the Holy Spirit not offering guidance on an individual basis, but that the Holy Spirit must be interepreted in a context of common interpretation of the Church, do I understand you correctly?
I will say that as I have read through this forum, I have been seeking to understand what divides the Church so much. I do feel that there is a certain balance going on in the competing interpretations by the liberal christians vs the conservative christians. Both seem to act as a check and balance against each other and I am appreciating the chance to have this common fellowship via the internet. Through this forum I am exposed to much more varied views than if I was confined to one church teaching along a fairly dogmatic line thinking.
John 13:34-35
I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. As I have loved you, you should also love one another. By this all shall know that you are My disciples, if you have love toward one another
John 14:15-17
15If you love Me, keep My commandments. 16And I will pray the Father, and He shall give you another Comforter, so that He may be with you forever, 17the Spirit of Truth, whom the world cannot receive because it does not see Him nor know Him. But you know Him, for He dwells with you and shall be in you.
Matthew 19:3-12
3The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4And he answered and said unto them, "Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, " 5"And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? " 6"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. " 7They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8He saith unto them, "Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. " 9"And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
" 10His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. 11But he said unto them, "All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. " 12"For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mothers womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heavens sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Mustaphile said:"If two people want to get married in which one or the other has been divorced and that marriage is in the spirit of love then we must accept that only God knows what the real intentions of the hearts are. I assume here we are talking about two believers. If the Spirit is dwelling within them, then we will know them by the outward expression of that spirit. God will reveal their intentions through his Spirit. If the Holy Spirit lives inside of them and manifests itself outwardly in their lives, who are we to doubt that God's grace is not actively covering them for past sin?
The Holy Spirit has already given His counsel on divorce and remarriage in writing. Any counsel contrary to the Word is not from Him.
Mustaphile said:Do you not believe the Holy Spirit is active anymore in offering guidance as the Church encounters new challenges?
What are your thoughts on women teaching in the church?
Do you feel women should not speak in church?
Should they wear head coverings?
Are you applying a literal interpretation in every aspect of
the Bible?
Or do you look for the context in which things are written in?
Are you looking deeper for reasons of why certain things were written?
Jesus many times avoided making direct statements about interpretations of the law. Do you not see why he did so?
BTW, Mustaphile does not mean anything in particular. The internet is a mixed blessing as far as communication goes. I am feeling the weight of it's inadequacies today. It lacks the nuances and fluidity I require to convey my true feelings.
I feel that some of your posts have come across in the spirit of judgement and condemnation and may not be effectively communicating your message. Just as I am struggling right now with effectively relating my concerns...hehehe...
I might come back to this later.
God Bless you, you seem to have a kind and compassionate heart,
Heartman
I am afraid that my own words do not convey the level of concern and urgent appeal to submit to the Word of the Lord and be reconciled to God strong enough. Any time I show irritation,anger or any inadequacy in my delivery, it is my own failing, not His.
Mustaphile said:I do understand what spirit you speak in now. I feel it was the conviction that this was placing in my own heart that was causing me to be troubled in spirit. My own flesh wrestling with the spirit so to speak. I have been somewhat isolated in my thoughts for some time and this forum has allowed me to have fellowship with other believers in a new and interesting way.