Divorce, God's Will by Stephen Gola

SeekingTruthInGA · Mar 15, 2005

Hi Everyone! I am a Newbie to this sight, but I think it will be a great outlet for me to discuss the scriptural issues surrounding my divorce. My ex left me for no ther reason than she did not want to be married to a teacher. Yes our marriage had problems, but none that were not fixable. My issue now is that my ex is now in an adulterous relationship. She gave the divorcehope.com website to try and prove that she was not committing adultery. I have been reading the excerpts and also trying to find out more about the author. At this point, Stephen Gola has very little credibility as he is self-taught and believes that God talks directly to him. He also has never been divorced. Although I do believe that their are reasons for divorce and that some people do stay in a bad marriage, I also believe that there should be some scriptural basis for divorce. Over 12 years ago, we made a covenant with God that said we would stay married no matter what til death do us part. I believe that all marriages have their ups and downs and that it is during the downs that we really need to lean on God. I also believe that we should lean on God during the good times too. Gola believes that a single person is more important than a covenant with God. To me, that is like saying a single person has the right to be above the law, any law, as long as it fits their personal needs. Its like saying its okay for me to steal a car, because I need the car even though it is against the law. Gola also believes that God speaks directly to him and those of us who have studied the scriptures know that God stopped that when we crucified his son on the cross. I believe that God does speak to us, but indirectly. The best example I can give of that is that one day I was at work stressing over when I would ever get to see my girls again and prayed to God saying that my girls were in his hands and that he would do what was best for them. Five minutes later, my attorney called with word that my ex was willing to start letting me see the girls again. He does not sit us down and say "Son I want you to go teach people about divorce!" That is a direct quote from Gola's profile on the divorce .com website. I think that Gola is sincere about being a christian, but I feel he is misguided if guided at all. Does anyone out there know anything about Stephen Gola or know where I can find out more about him?

ysl_75 · Mar 16, 2005

Welcome to CF and nice to see you here! Sorry to hear about your matter and may God open doors and lead you ya! God bless you !

Dr. Holly · Mar 16, 2005

Hello there :wave:

How wonderful that you have found this site and decided to join us. It is a wonderful community with lots of loving, caring people. I hope that you will stick around and take the time to get to know some people. I trust in God that you will find what it is you are seeking here. Im looking forward to seeing your posts in the near future. May God bless you richly in your life. If you ever need help with anything, I am only a PM away. Id be happy to help in any way that I can. If you have any questions regarding how to navigate the site, check out the FAQ for answers. Do take care!
As for Stephen Gola, I have not heard anything about him to be honest. I am deeply saddened to hear what you have been through, and praying that God gives you the strength to keep going and do what is right in your life. I will also pray for your ex wife that the Lord will bring her back to where she belongs. :hug:

God bless you & yours!

Brutus/HisCatalyst · Mar 16, 2005

Hello fellow Georgia local. Welcome to the forums.

jon paine · Mar 16, 2005

Welcome Steven. Divorce happens and how painful it can be. Hope that you can find the answers you seek here. :wave:

psalms 91 · Mar 16, 2005

welcome and you will find answeres here

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Orchids · Mar 16, 2005

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Praise God there is such a place as this. You may wish to explore the FAQ first.

This makes an opportunity to make understanding with our brothers in Christ of differing denominations. Pehaps with understanding comes acceptance and love, or at least knowledge of reasoning. May we all reason throughout the Scriptures with boldness and love.

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KittiK · Mar 17, 2005

Hello! It's very nice to meet you. I have not heard of him either, but he sounds alittle 'off'. I hope I don't offend you, but I think that God doesn't give us anything we can't handle and there is something definite that you and/or your ex will learn from this. What if God has great plans for you? What if this path will lead you to something truly blessed and wonderful? Don't let this stump you and remember....He is there for you and will stand beside you. Let Him drive.
Love,
~Kitti

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