difference between caring and beng nosy

janny108 · May 30, 2009

What comes to your mind when you think about caring people and nosy people? They both can be similiar I think. I live in an apt complex, I have neighbors that seem like they are caring but can be nosy too.
Jan

drich0150 · May 30, 2009

It's how people act on the information given.. "Nosy people" gossip and spread rumors, or sit idly by while you struggle in your situation.. People who want to know whats going because they care, get the info and act on it in a helpful way.

wonderwaleye · May 30, 2009

janny108 said:
What comes to your mind when you think about caring people and nosy people? They both can be similiar I think. I live in an apt complex, I have neighbors that seem like they are caring but can be nosy too.
Jan

Take your eyes off them and look up to GOD. You don't think you are able to judge another's heart do you?

LOVE

steven

Fixation On God · May 30, 2009

wonderwaleye said:
Take your eyes off them and look up to GOD. You don't think you are able to judge another's heart do you?

LOVE

steven

Well said,

As Paul wrote the the Church of Colosse: "Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things, above, where Christ is seated atthe right hand of God. Set your mindson things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God." (Colossians 3:2-3)

Fixation On God · May 30, 2009

thats weird, my first post didn't show up,

Well said,

Colossians 3:1-2 says "...Set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated....Set your minds on things above, not earthly things.

suzybeezy · May 30, 2009

Yeah I think it has to do with their motivation - either they want info for a stimulation or they want additional info cause they care and want to help you work it out. I think its pretty easy to pick up on the "vibe" of which is their intention. If you feel someone is just being nosey, say something like "its personal" or "I'd prefer not going into more details"

heron · May 30, 2009

Nosy people will ask you a question and sometimes not listen for your answer. Or decide to judge it as soon as you've said it.

We don't have to answer every question people ask us. Sometimes it takes some bad experiences to find our limits.

People who want to gain for themselves from others' weaknesses will also be interested in talking about themselves. It is worth trying to redirect the conversation to get them to talk about their own lives... see what happens. (-;

DreamsAreFree · May 31, 2009

heron said:
Nosy people will ask you a question and sometimes not listen for your answer. Or decide to judge it as soon as you've said it.

We don't have to answer every question people ask us. Sometimes it takes some bad experiences to find our limits.

People who want to gain for themselves from others' weaknesses will also be interested in talking about themselves. It is worth trying to redirect the conversation to get them to talk about their own lives... see what happens. (-;

Though sometimes, when someone tries to steer the conversation to your own life, they are trying to find out if you can relate in any way. Some people don't feel 'safe' opening up unless they know something about the person they are talking to. If someone does that to me, and it happens, I will share a bit of what I am comfortable sharing about myself and my experience if relevant, before moving the conversation back to them. That's about giving someone what they need in order to help them open up more.

Nosey people can be less inclined to talk about themselves as they just want to know the goss with you.

I think nosey people will likely ask beyond what you feel comfortable sharing and 'interrogate' more. They want the excitement of knowing something that has an edge of scandal or to know something others don't.

Caring people will generally respect your boundaries more and be more sensitive to when you have shared as much as you are willing. They will also be more likely to help explore solutions or ask what support they can offer.

Then there are those who care but who have experiences, that may be unresolved, that are too close to your own for them to be helpful to you. They will tend to talk about their own similar experience a lot rather than focusing on your experience and needs.

janny108 · May 31, 2009

drich0150 said:
It's how people act on the information given.. "Nosy people" gossip and spread rumors, or sit idly by while you struggle in your situation.. People who want to know whats going because they care, get the info and act on it in a helpful way.

Thanks this helps clarify. Yeah mostly it's just to talk about people(some of my neighbors that is, they are elderly) not to try to help. But other times they have helped other ppl.
Jan

janny108 · May 31, 2009

wonderwaleye said:
Take your eyes off them and look up to GOD. You don't think you are able to judge another's heart do you?

LOVE

steven

Why do you insist on using bold large font in your replies? Your words are no better than anyone else's. I am not judging anybody which is why I posted the question!

Jan

SilverFire · May 31, 2009

suzybeezy said:
Yeah I think it has to do with their motivation - either they want info for a stimulation or they want additional info cause they care and want to help you work it out. I think its pretty easy to pick up on the "vibe" of which is their intention. If you feel someone is just being nosey, say something like "its personal" or "I'd prefer not going into more details"

This is a good point. I often have trouble differentiating between caring and nosey. Of course, being rather private doesn't help! Caring people want to help. Nosy people just want to know.

johnd · May 31, 2009

janny108 said:
What comes to your mind when you think about caring people and nosy people? They both can be similiar I think. I live in an apt complex, I have neighbors that seem like they are caring but can be nosy too.
Jan

The difference is quite simply the same difference between selfishness and selflessness.

wonderwaleye · Jun 1, 2009

janny108 said:
Why do you insist on using bold large font in your replies? Your words are no better than anyone else's. I am not judging anybody which is why I posted the question!

Jan

Ephesians

Chapter 3

12
in whom we have boldness of speech and confidence of access through faith in him.

Acts
Chapter 4

13
Observing the boldness of Peter and John and perceiving them to be uneducated, ordinary men, they were amazed, and they recognized them as the companions of Jesus

29
And now, Lord, take note of their threats, and enable your servants to speak your word with all boldness,

Revelation
Chapter 3:

15 "I know your works; I know that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either cold or hot.

16 So, because you are lukewarm, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth.

Ephesians
Chapter 5

6 Let no one deceive you with empty arguments, for because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the disobedient.

Because I am not dead in CHRIST

LOVE

steven

Snyder45 · Jun 1, 2009

janny108 said:
What comes to your mind when you think about caring people and nosy people? They both can be similiar I think. I live in an apt complex, I have neighbors that seem like they are caring but can be nosy too.
Jan

"Nosy" is a term. What does it mean. Doubt? Judgemental?

Caring is usually a lie from people, I hate to break it to you -- but do not judge lest you find only yourself wrapped up in your own judgements.

AmeriLovesJesus · Jun 2, 2009

drich0150 said:
It's how people act on the information given.. "Nosy people" gossip and spread rumors, or sit idly by while you struggle in your situation.. People who want to know whats going because they care, get the info and act on it in a helpful way.

AGREE!!!

janny108 · Jun 2, 2009

Snyder45 said:
"Nosy" is a term. What does it mean. Doubt? Judgemental?

Caring is usually a lie from people, I hate to break it to you -- but do not judge lest you find only yourself wrapped up in your own judgements.

I think it's pretty obvious what I mean unless you live in a glass bubble. Nosy to me is wanting to know others business simply for knowing it not for helping. I think someone said it pretty well already.
Jan

aldar · Jun 2, 2009

Janny,

I think the easies way to tell the diffrence is how they respond when you let them know how you feel. If you let a person know you don't like them asking or intruding or that you just don't want them to know...and they back off respectfully..thats caring becuase they care enough about you to respect your wishes. If they are offended and continue to push....thats nosey becuase they are not caring for you becuase they do not care about how you feel abobut them wanting to know.

Naal · Jun 2, 2009

To me the difference is this...

Nosy person:Oh my gosh! What's wrong? You look sad!
Me: I don't really want to talk about it... = /
Nosy Person: C'mon I won't tell anyone! I'm curious now.

Concerned person: Oh my Gosh, what's wrong? You look sad!
Me: I don't really want to talk about it... = /
Concerned person: That's fine, I'll be praying for you.

To me the difference is that one person HAS to know what's going on for sake of their own benefit, and someone who is concerned doesn't have to feel like they know anything about the situation.

wonderwaleye · Jun 2, 2009

janny108 said:
Why do you insist on using bold large font in your replies? Your words are no better than anyone else's. I am not judging anybody which is why I posted the question!

Jan

If you will notice it is GOD'S MILK that is generally in bold print. But not always. Sometimes attention needs to be called to the message.

Some say my messages are harsh. But they are done in LOVE the way GOD has given them to me:

SPEAKING THE TRUTH

Proverbs
Chapter 8

1 Does not Wisdom call, and Understanding raise her voice?

2 On the top of the heights along the road, at the crossroads she takes her stand;

3 By the gates at the approaches of the city, in the entryways she cries aloud:

4 "To you, O men, I call; my appeal is to the children of men.

5 You simple ones, gain resource, you fools, gain sense.

6 "Give heed! for noble things I speak; honesty opens my lips.

7 Yes, the truth my mouth recounts, but the wickedness my lips abhor.

8 Sincere are all the words of my mouth, no one of them is wily or crooked;

9 All of them are plain to the man of intelligence, and right to those who attain knowledge.

10 Receive my instruction in preference to silver, and knowledge rather than choice gold.

11 (For Wisdom is better than corals, and no choice possessions can compare with her.)

12 "I, Wisdom, dwell with experience, and judicious knowledge I attain.

13 (The fear of the LORD is to hate evil Pride, arrogance, the evil way, and the perverse mouth I hate.

14 Mine are counsel and advice; Mine is strength; I am understanding.

Some would say this is harsh.

But GOD MEANS WHAT HE SAYS!

LOVE

steven

DreamsAreFree · Jun 2, 2009

The bold print is a bit annoying and hard to read ...

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