I didn't bring this up for a while. Warning, Kind of long.....
But I think a couple of years ago...I had met this woman on Match that lived locally. She was early 50s, never married, no kids. Pretty ideal as I am the same. She goes to a local church and pretty well known throughout the small town.
Anyways, we clicked pretty well, and we met in person and when we were together...we had a great time. Thing was though, I got the vibe it was more of a...non-date. She insisted paying her own way. I was fine with it, didn't object.
We even went out a 2nd time...and still, she would not let me pay. Typically, when I go on dates, women let me pay. So I dunno, everyone's different. It felt more like a Schrödinger's Date
On our second date, while eating...she revealed to me that she was only open to friendships at this point...as she was recovering from colon cancer. She had it removed, but she still needed chemo and didn't want to subject a man to a relationship under those conditions. Which is understandable. Though it sounded promising that she at least had it removed.
She said the chemo could last several months (like around 6). Anyways, I was okay with being friends...as she is local to me...and most of my friends events are an hour away. I even liked her, as a friend, regardless.
But....that was when she slowly started to fade. I figured I"d stay in touch with her, to see how her health was doing....I really wanted to be her friend....as we clicked on levels and she was a sci-fi fan kind of.
Eventually, she stopped returning my texts and calls
I was kind of worried...as, well...because...cancer. So I'd ping her once in a while, but then it came to a point where I would completely stop.
One day, I befriended a friend of her's in the future. I didn't know that they knew each other, but I was invited out to a small gathering at this newer friend's house....I wasn't able to go...had to work.
But me and her got to talking (no dating interest here whatsoever)...then she mentions the name of the same woman. I had mentioned this woman previously and her health issues...as we were sharing stories about online dating and how this local woman (same thing I'm posting about her) had cancer.
Like I said, she mentioned the name of the same woman. I was like "Wait...woah...this is the SAME <name of woman> that I spoke about earlier? Even gave a description" and sure enough it was the same woman. She told me that she was doing well at this point healthwise.
So...months later, and after this conversation...I contacted her with a text. She said, "Thank you...but who is this?"
I guess she deleted my contact? I told her who I was and how I know her other friend (our new friend). She didn't respond after that. Went cold.
It was at that point I was thinking that she was using cancer as an excuse to ghost me? I hate to say that...but I get the feeling that's what she did. Though, it could be true (not saying it isn't) but if so...isn't there just some bad "ju-ju" about doing that?
I dunno, that's another topic too, about women SAYING they want to hang out as friends, so they could possibly introduce you to other singles, but do they really want to be friends?
But I think a couple of years ago...I had met this woman on Match that lived locally. She was early 50s, never married, no kids. Pretty ideal as I am the same. She goes to a local church and pretty well known throughout the small town.
Anyways, we clicked pretty well, and we met in person and when we were together...we had a great time. Thing was though, I got the vibe it was more of a...non-date. She insisted paying her own way. I was fine with it, didn't object.
We even went out a 2nd time...and still, she would not let me pay. Typically, when I go on dates, women let me pay. So I dunno, everyone's different. It felt more like a Schrödinger's Date
On our second date, while eating...she revealed to me that she was only open to friendships at this point...as she was recovering from colon cancer. She had it removed, but she still needed chemo and didn't want to subject a man to a relationship under those conditions. Which is understandable. Though it sounded promising that she at least had it removed.
She said the chemo could last several months (like around 6). Anyways, I was okay with being friends...as she is local to me...and most of my friends events are an hour away. I even liked her, as a friend, regardless.
But....that was when she slowly started to fade. I figured I"d stay in touch with her, to see how her health was doing....I really wanted to be her friend....as we clicked on levels and she was a sci-fi fan kind of.
Eventually, she stopped returning my texts and calls
I was kind of worried...as, well...because...cancer. So I'd ping her once in a while, but then it came to a point where I would completely stop.
One day, I befriended a friend of her's in the future. I didn't know that they knew each other, but I was invited out to a small gathering at this newer friend's house....I wasn't able to go...had to work.
But me and her got to talking (no dating interest here whatsoever)...then she mentions the name of the same woman. I had mentioned this woman previously and her health issues...as we were sharing stories about online dating and how this local woman (same thing I'm posting about her) had cancer.
Like I said, she mentioned the name of the same woman. I was like "Wait...woah...this is the SAME <name of woman> that I spoke about earlier? Even gave a description" and sure enough it was the same woman. She told me that she was doing well at this point healthwise.
So...months later, and after this conversation...I contacted her with a text. She said, "Thank you...but who is this?"
I guess she deleted my contact? I told her who I was and how I know her other friend (our new friend). She didn't respond after that. Went cold.
It was at that point I was thinking that she was using cancer as an excuse to ghost me? I hate to say that...but I get the feeling that's what she did. Though, it could be true (not saying it isn't) but if so...isn't there just some bad "ju-ju" about doing that?
I dunno, that's another topic too, about women SAYING they want to hang out as friends, so they could possibly introduce you to other singles, but do they really want to be friends?