I believed in my early 30s that God wanted me single. It crushed me, but having been through painful relationship breakups, i had to go with it and trust God.
In the decade that followed, i gave up relationships believing God had a bigger and better plan for me, some relationships that everyone around knew were right for me, but i still didnt pursue them.
Its now not long until i hit 50, and nothing happened, nothing to show for my singleness, and i've slowly lost faith in God to either help or even to speak to me about it. I feel abandoned, and that if I got it wrong those years ago, or not, God has given up helping me and I'm left old, alone and useless.
I grew up in a faith church, so i believed that God was always good enough, faithful enough, loving enough to help anyone who asked. Now, i've got nowhere to go with my belief. I've always just wanted a win-win, for God to show himself as my provider, to be the restorer of things lost. I always wanted to keep my faith, and i feel God has decided my faith was disposable. All i wanted was to see Him vindicated in my life, when others including a previous pastor, mocked me for believing in a God that works miracles today. My ex pastor told me to look at my life, and say that God always responds to faith - we were discussing healing by faith. I hate it that he is the one who will come out right.
Now my choices are much more limited, and worse, I dont know how to trust God. I started praying the other day for something quite small and it hit me that why would God be so interested in something trivial, when the biggest problem is left unanswered.
My choice to keep on believing and waiting, maybe for another 10 years, is unthinkable now.
Or if i just go out and settle for anyone, then i've lost nearly 20 years of meaningless pain, and lost my faith and trust in God. I cant win unless God answers my prayers.
I have an anti-testimony, and i have no idea how to trust God anymore. I wish I had never believed in any of this now.
Can anyone help me go forward.
In the decade that followed, i gave up relationships believing God had a bigger and better plan for me, some relationships that everyone around knew were right for me, but i still didnt pursue them.
Its now not long until i hit 50, and nothing happened, nothing to show for my singleness, and i've slowly lost faith in God to either help or even to speak to me about it. I feel abandoned, and that if I got it wrong those years ago, or not, God has given up helping me and I'm left old, alone and useless.
I grew up in a faith church, so i believed that God was always good enough, faithful enough, loving enough to help anyone who asked. Now, i've got nowhere to go with my belief. I've always just wanted a win-win, for God to show himself as my provider, to be the restorer of things lost. I always wanted to keep my faith, and i feel God has decided my faith was disposable. All i wanted was to see Him vindicated in my life, when others including a previous pastor, mocked me for believing in a God that works miracles today. My ex pastor told me to look at my life, and say that God always responds to faith - we were discussing healing by faith. I hate it that he is the one who will come out right.
Now my choices are much more limited, and worse, I dont know how to trust God. I started praying the other day for something quite small and it hit me that why would God be so interested in something trivial, when the biggest problem is left unanswered.
My choice to keep on believing and waiting, maybe for another 10 years, is unthinkable now.
Or if i just go out and settle for anyone, then i've lost nearly 20 years of meaningless pain, and lost my faith and trust in God. I cant win unless God answers my prayers.
I have an anti-testimony, and i have no idea how to trust God anymore. I wish I had never believed in any of this now.
Can anyone help me go forward.