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Regardless of the type of depression, what positive ways do you cope with or overcome it?
Regardless of the type of depression, what positive ways do you cope with or overcome it?
I believe the standard recommendation is still both is medication (psychiatrist) and therapy (psychologist).Regardless of the type of depression, what positive ways do you cope with or overcome it?
I fought against depression for many years. I tried medications that made me act out and just made me tired and exhausted. I tried counseling and read books. I just never felt any of it worked. I was able to conquer it by changing the way I thought and with my actions.
I kept thinking the answers were external...that all I needed was A, B, and C and it would go away. I tried to put the burden on others, thinking maybe relationships and friendships would fix me. They didn't. I tried pain meds because they made me feel good for a little while. That didn't work either.
I had to sit down and decide for myself that I'm in charge of my life and I was never meant to seek or find happiness outside of my being. I have everything I need to be happy. I'm in charge of my thoughts and whether or not I believe the lies. I'm in charge of my actions and how I act. I get to choose what I do with my life from here on out.
So, I made a plan. What am I not happy with? What do I wish I could change? How can I think differently? Then, I put it into motion. I stopped thinking of myself as this lowly, unloved figure. Through that, I discovered my worth. By identifying when I knew a panic attack was coming on, I learned how to stop it in its tracks. When I get stressed, I taught myself to walk away, center myself, take deep breaths, and listen to relaxing music.
The biggest thing is telling myself it's okay. Everything is okay. There is nothing going on in my life I can't overcome. I'm fine. The thoughts trying to tell me something is wrong or making me sad are lying. I have a roof over my head, food in my fridge, etc, so all my needs are covered. If I wasn't happy with my living situation, my job situation, etc, I could change it at ANY time I want. I just have to separate myself from the lies and the sadness and not letting it consume me.
So far, it has worked! I haven't been depressed or had a panic attack in a very long time. I've been stressed and stuff here or there, I'm still human, but these changes have completely transformed my life.
Amen. Our sufferings can also be for the purpose of helping others as Christ Himself showed us. I always love to keep in mind the Scripture that says, "For we do not have a High Priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin." That is so encouraging.It's hard to give advice on how to cope with depression since we may all be dealing with different root causes. What I have found to be a lasting cure ( in my case) is to give up the fight to make my life anything specific and to let go of any preconceived notions I had of what my life should be like ( I can feel sorry about certain sufferings in life and have legitimate sorrows, but I haven't yet been thrown to lions in a Colosseum for my faith. Our problems are all a matter of perspective).
I fought quite hard for a period of a few years, haha. I don't mean that I gave up working hard to reach goals or working on improving the things I could change. I agree with Saucy on that. What I gave up was my sense of entitlement that I deserved certain things or relationships in life and my fantasy of what my life was going to be like. Once I did that and accepted my circumstances, I began to find such joy and contentment in all the little sweet things and blessings in my life. Sometimes we can fret over the big picture and totally miss out on enjoying all the blessings we have on a daily basis. I also made the conscious decision to be grateful and thank God for all the numerous times he's provided for me and blessed me. Once I started to do that I was overcome with sorrow and shame for how long I had been ungrateful and complaining. I have chosen since that time to control my thoughts. Life is hard and full of sufferings and it's okay to feel sad and down at times. We do have the power though to control our thoughts and focus on the right things. The right feelings usually follow after we make the right decisions and focus on the right thoughts.
Maybe I don't have everything I would desire, but this earthly life isn't/ wasn't designed for us to coast through and have everything. Christ said that no man was fit to be his disciple unless he was willing to deny himself and pick up his cross. When you really believe and accept (deep in your soul) that the purpose of this life is to grow close to Christ, be transformed, and reach others, you start to view your sufferings in an entirely new light. I recently heard an incredible sermon that reinforced this. The text was the classic verse in Philippians " To live is Christ and to die is gain." Our life on earth is to prepare us for the " gain" of the next world. That being eternal fellowship with Christ and seeing his face.
I really like this quote by Timothy Keller that I recently came across : " So suffering is at the very heart of the Christian faith. It is not only the way that Christ became like and redeemed us, but it is one of the main ways we become like him and experience his redemption. And that means that our suffering, despite its painfulness, is also filled with purpose and usefulness."