I agree with you, they aren't the same.
You'll forgive me if I quote your EXACT words then:
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Basically it's the same thing except it's much safer and socially acceptable to blame things on the POTUS"
See how you originally said it's the "same thing" and then you explained what the same thing was: the BEHAVIOUR and not some back tracking about "motivation". Own your words guy.
What you believe I said isn't there. Read it again, I'm pointing out that the motivation is the same but they are two different kinds of bad behavior.
I'm not going to harp on your terrible communication as I feel I've made the point about your EXACT words.
Now, on to your point:
What the heck are you even talking about the "motivation is the same"???
In your example, one guy is complaining about his boss. We don't know how bad his boss is. Maybe the dude is a whiner.
OR
Maybe the dude's boss is a raging mysogynist who grabs female employees by their genitals, maybe he's an abusive capricious leader who constantly lies to keep employees on their toes (and then blames them when they don't understand what he means), maybe his boss is taking part in insider trading or other illegal business practices, maybe he teases the guy in a wheelchair in your office, or maybe when the office manager's husband just returned home from duty after getting his legs blown off, he makes a comment on how a REAL soldier would have been able to identify that there was a landmine there. Maybe he's hiding his affairs with his secretaries and other prostitues from his wife by bringing them to the office. Maybe he's trading company information to their competitors for pay offs.
Long story short: Maybe this boss is a TERRIBLE, terrible boss. Maybe the motivation for complaining to his wife is because he no longer knows how to handle working for such an incompetent, dishonest, mean spirited twonk.
And Trump DID things wrong. There are plenty of witnesses to him doing those things wrong. So, are we not supposed to hold presidents to account for anything anymore? With Trump it started with social decorum; things like grabbing women's genitals and making fun of handicapped people by imitating them was able to be rationalized as "it's okay.....I mean it's basically okay". Now, even the Constitution can get dismissed. Trump supporters have no standard of behaviour for him.
Shameful.
TL-DR: You weren't talking about "motivations" in your original post and there was ABSOLUTELY no way an english native speaker would have picked up on that.
Regardless, the "motivations" you talk about are a red herring at best; confusing and nonsensical at their worst.