My daughter is 15 and is on the autism spectrum. I won't get too into that other than to say it's common for girls on the spectrum to reject their femininity due to the inability to tolerate puberty and deal with all he "girl" things. So after numerous docs and psychs pushed the idea she is transgender, she has been identifying as a boy at school. I'm fine with this, we don't want to make a big deal out of something that her psychiatrists have said will probably change.
Everything was going great until she and I had a quick informal meeting with the principal (who has bent over backwards to help my daughter) mentioned that they were forming a gay-straight Alliance club that will take place during lunch once per week. It's all in the bane of "safety." I told the principal that my child felt very safe at the school so why does she need to go to a LGTBQ club to be safe? Well I read more about GSA and it is very much an activist group with adults outside the school helping to get it started. Although they were supposed to advertise the club to the entire school, they selected the kids they thought would want to be in the club.
My husband and I told our daughter we did not want her to go to the club for many reasons, mainly that we don't believe sexual orientation belongs in school. I explained that I'm not allowing other adults we know nothing about promote their agenda on her. My daughter is very neieve, doesn't act at all like a boy, and a good kid. She has terrible social anxiety and sensory issues.
Today she happened to leave her lunch at home so I took the opportunity to bring it to her, that way I could see if she went against our wishes and eat with the club (in a separate building). I got there and walked in to the room and she looked really anxious. I just said here's your lunch and kissed her on the forehead. It was only her and two other kids and two adults. I asked the adults to see their mission statement and club documents. They didn't have any because the kids are going to draft them.
I went to the principal and asked questions and told her my concerns. She was extremely nice and said that my daughter doesn't need to go to the group, in fact she said she could offer her more time working with the schools service dog. I appreciate that, but now there is a wedge between our daughter and us. We already told her no, she froze up and ignored us and was mad st me for a day. And then today after school I asked her what's wrong and she said "well I guess your just going to scold me all night." I told her no I won't. We haven't brought it up since, but we now have concerns about the school. She is doing well there which is quite the achievement, but her favorite period (puppy teaching assistant) is with her. I want to like her and do, but she targeted my child. Now my daughter will have a breakdown if we pull her out of school to homeschool. And if she stays in school she'll probably be sad/mad she's not "allowed" in the group.
My friend is a Christian and her daughter is the same age. She said we could do a homeschool co-op, put the kids in activities, etc. also, my dad has about 6 months left to live. Maybe homeschooling would give us the opportunity to go help my mom and be with him.
My husband said we can't have misguided adults indoctrinating our child. I agree. This club's "purpose" is for kids to become activists in fighting homophobia and teanspgobia in middle and high schools.
What would you do? And if you believe I'm bigoted or wrong please realize my concern is for my 15 year old daughter who has high functioning autism.
Everything was going great until she and I had a quick informal meeting with the principal (who has bent over backwards to help my daughter) mentioned that they were forming a gay-straight Alliance club that will take place during lunch once per week. It's all in the bane of "safety." I told the principal that my child felt very safe at the school so why does she need to go to a LGTBQ club to be safe? Well I read more about GSA and it is very much an activist group with adults outside the school helping to get it started. Although they were supposed to advertise the club to the entire school, they selected the kids they thought would want to be in the club.
My husband and I told our daughter we did not want her to go to the club for many reasons, mainly that we don't believe sexual orientation belongs in school. I explained that I'm not allowing other adults we know nothing about promote their agenda on her. My daughter is very neieve, doesn't act at all like a boy, and a good kid. She has terrible social anxiety and sensory issues.
Today she happened to leave her lunch at home so I took the opportunity to bring it to her, that way I could see if she went against our wishes and eat with the club (in a separate building). I got there and walked in to the room and she looked really anxious. I just said here's your lunch and kissed her on the forehead. It was only her and two other kids and two adults. I asked the adults to see their mission statement and club documents. They didn't have any because the kids are going to draft them.
I went to the principal and asked questions and told her my concerns. She was extremely nice and said that my daughter doesn't need to go to the group, in fact she said she could offer her more time working with the schools service dog. I appreciate that, but now there is a wedge between our daughter and us. We already told her no, she froze up and ignored us and was mad st me for a day. And then today after school I asked her what's wrong and she said "well I guess your just going to scold me all night." I told her no I won't. We haven't brought it up since, but we now have concerns about the school. She is doing well there which is quite the achievement, but her favorite period (puppy teaching assistant) is with her. I want to like her and do, but she targeted my child. Now my daughter will have a breakdown if we pull her out of school to homeschool. And if she stays in school she'll probably be sad/mad she's not "allowed" in the group.
My friend is a Christian and her daughter is the same age. She said we could do a homeschool co-op, put the kids in activities, etc. also, my dad has about 6 months left to live. Maybe homeschooling would give us the opportunity to go help my mom and be with him.
My husband said we can't have misguided adults indoctrinating our child. I agree. This club's "purpose" is for kids to become activists in fighting homophobia and teanspgobia in middle and high schools.
What would you do? And if you believe I'm bigoted or wrong please realize my concern is for my 15 year old daughter who has high functioning autism.