as most priests will tell you, feeling homosexual tendencies is not a sin. Most priests say homosexual BEHAVIOR is. Butdo not tell your child that homosexuality is only a sin if she acts on it. at first when i came to terms with the fact that i was a lesbian, i felt scared and hopeless and didn’t know what to do because i thought it meant i was going to hell for certain. later i was told (in an attempt to comfort me) that it’s only a sin if i act on it. that meant i could either go to hell, or spend my life alone repressing my feelings. you know what i started doing to cope? one) i started cutting myself. every time i looked at the girl i had feelings for i’d hurt myself in an attempt to “fix” myself. second) i was told suicides landed you in hell too, so instead i would break down crying in the church bathroom begging god to give me a terminal illness or to will a car to swerve and hit me. once my self hatred stemmed from that, it stayed with me for years, and it’s still not completely gone. If you tell her that she’s only a sinner if she acts on her orientation, or at all, then she will either grow to resent you, the church, herself, or all three. I pray to God that either you change, or that your daughter is able to get far far away from you.
