Xen_Antares said:
But that then makes the question, what does God consider marriage? Does standing in front of a crowd in a church and saying I do make you married? Or does God consider it to be the Union of two hearts as one body? Just because you say the words and go through the motions and have a piece of paper saying you are married doesnt mean in God's eyes you are. Alot of people get married out of lust, not love, or out of the ecnomic benefit, or to quell lonliness, not the right reasons, and God knows the heart. Its like someone being a preacher or saying theyre saved doesnt make them so.
If the couple goes through a ceremony to get married and both say "I do" of their own free will etc. and consummate the marriage, then they are married. The reasons why they got to that point in the first place don't change the fact that they are now married. Just like some people get saved because they are scared of Hell and some get saved because they love God's love - either way they are saved; it doesn't matter how they got to that point.
You claim that God forgets sin when He forgives, which I agree with. So if divorce is a sin and He forgives the divorce, He forgets the divorce. That doesn't mean that He forgets the marriage... Even if the marriage was against His will, He can forget the against His will part without forgetting the marriage part. Marriage is for life. That's what the Bible says. Sure I can forgive a person for making bad decisions, for getting a divorce, etc. I can treat them as a fellow Christian, a sibling in Christ, a fellow forgiven sinner. However I cannot treat them as if they are unmarried. If the person they married is still alive; they are not available for me to marry.
The divorce can be forgiven and forgotten. Going outside of God's will can be forgiven and forgotten. The state of being married, however, is not something to be either forgiven or forgotten. It is something that just is. And to marry someone who is already married is adultery. The Bible is clear on that; just as it is clear that to marry someone who is divorced is adultery. The only way for a person who has been married to really become available for marriage to someone else is for their spouse to die. Sounds harsh, but it's Biblical.
And what you fear is adultry is void if God has forgiven them because he forgets about what would make it a sin in the first place. The only persons whose eyes who would see it as a sin would be yours.
My ultimate standard for what is and isn't acceptable for me to do is not whether everyone else is ok with it or whether the government is ok with it; it's whether God is ok with it. If the Bible says "no" then it must mean no. If the Bible says "this is a sin" then it must be a sin. Do you require me to give you the actual Bible verses before you will believe me? They are in the New Testament and are spoken by Jesus himself, so it's not like I'm referring to some obscure legalistic passage.
Just because sin can be forgiven and forgotten does not mean that we should use forgiveness as a free ticket to do whatever we please because we can just ask for forgiveness after we've done it. So if I've already married someone who was divorced, sure I can be forgiven for the adultery. If I've already stolen something, sure I can be forgiven for stealing. But that doesn't mean I should go ahead and commit adultery or steal something just because I can be forgiven.
Please tell me you wont hold it against a girl whose not a virgin.
Define "hold it against". I wouldn't shun someone who isn't a virgin or anything like that. If they have repented and received God's forgiveness I won't treat them like spoiled goods. If the person has not repented and has the attitude that virginity isn't a big deal anyway, I would have a problem with that. If they claim that extra-marital sex is perfectly ok, I would have a problem with that. As far as marriage goes, I'll admit that if I were to be married, I would most certainly prefer a virgin. Do you wish to hold that against me?
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