- Jan 20, 2018
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- Country
- New Zealand
- Faith
- Pentecostal
- Marital Status
- Married
Our 17 year old daughter (Y) has been seeing a seemingly wonderful Christian boy (J) this summer. She has known him for 2 years as they have been attending the same church where there is a more active youth group than the church my husband and I go to.
J has moved away to study for 3 years and plans to come back home periodically to be with his family and to see Y. However it has only been a few days and already Y is planning to go down to see J and stay for a couple of days. She is planning to sleep in his car (he stays on the school campus) with her girlfriend. This is because it will save her money in finding accommodation. Initially she wanted to fly down to see J by herself but I advised this was not a good idea because of lack of accountability. However there is nothing stopping Y's girlfriend taking off either even if she did go with Y (two's company, three's a crowd). My husband and I have had a discussion with Y and J regarding establishing healthy boundaries when spending time with one another and they have said they have already discussed this i.e. no sexual involvement with one another. Do we let her go with or without her girlfriend to sleep in his car?? Any advice would be really appreciated.
J has moved away to study for 3 years and plans to come back home periodically to be with his family and to see Y. However it has only been a few days and already Y is planning to go down to see J and stay for a couple of days. She is planning to sleep in his car (he stays on the school campus) with her girlfriend. This is because it will save her money in finding accommodation. Initially she wanted to fly down to see J by herself but I advised this was not a good idea because of lack of accountability. However there is nothing stopping Y's girlfriend taking off either even if she did go with Y (two's company, three's a crowd). My husband and I have had a discussion with Y and J regarding establishing healthy boundaries when spending time with one another and they have said they have already discussed this i.e. no sexual involvement with one another. Do we let her go with or without her girlfriend to sleep in his car?? Any advice would be really appreciated.