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So, I'm getting ready to go into the world, most likely to the Big Bad Secular University. I've never really dated: between being homeschooled, my parents not really approving of my dating, and being shy and introverted and scared, and not really that interested.
One of the things I have a lot of anxiety about is entering the dating scene... Even if I haven't had all that much interest in dating so far, I know I am entering "the scene" where people may be interested in me. And I'm not quite a completely unsocialized homeschooler but pretty close it, I'm afraid.
So I hope you can be patient with some pretty naive questions...
* If somebody I don't really know seems interested in me (hitting on me, trying to pick me up) -- how should I respond? Defensively, hostilely, indulgently? I don't want to attract a bunch of aggressive (predatory) guys, but I don't want to come off as weird or standoffish either...
* How do I quickly judge the character of somebody -- to know if I should want to go on a date with him or not? My gut instinct is, a guy who would come on to me aggressively and with lame pickup lines is probably not somebody I want to get to know... is that fair? Should deciding who to go out with in college be a case-by-case basis, or should I have policies like, "Never go out with a guy who comes on to me (at the store, at the gym, at the student union, etc.)"? "Only go out with guys who I meet (at church, in class, at the library)"?
* What do people actually do on dates in the real world -- and what should I be careful about? Obviously, "come to my place and let's study" is a little fishy if it's somebody I don't know and trust really well...
Or should I not "date" people I meet at school at all? Only "date" people through my (currently nonexistent) dating profile? Is it ok to turn everybody down? What is the right thing, the Christian thing to do? I feel like the little fish being thrown into the sea...
I haven't been interested in "dating," but I would like to, somebody, have a relationship and family. So if I don't "date" -- how do I meet somebody?
One of the things I have a lot of anxiety about is entering the dating scene... Even if I haven't had all that much interest in dating so far, I know I am entering "the scene" where people may be interested in me. And I'm not quite a completely unsocialized homeschooler but pretty close it, I'm afraid.
So I hope you can be patient with some pretty naive questions...
* If somebody I don't really know seems interested in me (hitting on me, trying to pick me up) -- how should I respond? Defensively, hostilely, indulgently? I don't want to attract a bunch of aggressive (predatory) guys, but I don't want to come off as weird or standoffish either...
* How do I quickly judge the character of somebody -- to know if I should want to go on a date with him or not? My gut instinct is, a guy who would come on to me aggressively and with lame pickup lines is probably not somebody I want to get to know... is that fair? Should deciding who to go out with in college be a case-by-case basis, or should I have policies like, "Never go out with a guy who comes on to me (at the store, at the gym, at the student union, etc.)"? "Only go out with guys who I meet (at church, in class, at the library)"?
* What do people actually do on dates in the real world -- and what should I be careful about? Obviously, "come to my place and let's study" is a little fishy if it's somebody I don't know and trust really well...
Or should I not "date" people I meet at school at all? Only "date" people through my (currently nonexistent) dating profile? Is it ok to turn everybody down? What is the right thing, the Christian thing to do? I feel like the little fish being thrown into the sea...
I haven't been interested in "dating," but I would like to, somebody, have a relationship and family. So if I don't "date" -- how do I meet somebody?
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