Hi all. I am a Christian single woman. At first I was not dating because I had daddy issues and trust issues with men because of the lack of male role models in my life. However, now I am single because I have been focused on developing myself, career, mental, physical and spiritual.
However, I am curious and I do wonder if I will ever date or marry. I am almost 27 and I live in a black community in South Africa where unfortunately many kids grow up fatherless and black boys don't know what it is like to be a real man and leader. Most guys around me objectify women and think that being a man is about money and status. I have never met a guy who has inspired me to date him and at the same time I have many hang ups about relationships. I have my life to figure out and I have dealt with many issues regarding black men, like my little brother doing drugs because his father never paid attention to him and kept disappointing him. Is it worth hoping that good men exist and actually believing in such a thing as a good marriage. I would rather focus on fixing myself and doing what I can to contribute positively to the world. The problem though, is that I WOULD like to meet a decent man, who loves God and has values...but, I do not think he exists.
How can I be a positive single person but without being bitter about marriage and totally throwing that option out?
However, I am curious and I do wonder if I will ever date or marry. I am almost 27 and I live in a black community in South Africa where unfortunately many kids grow up fatherless and black boys don't know what it is like to be a real man and leader. Most guys around me objectify women and think that being a man is about money and status. I have never met a guy who has inspired me to date him and at the same time I have many hang ups about relationships. I have my life to figure out and I have dealt with many issues regarding black men, like my little brother doing drugs because his father never paid attention to him and kept disappointing him. Is it worth hoping that good men exist and actually believing in such a thing as a good marriage. I would rather focus on fixing myself and doing what I can to contribute positively to the world. The problem though, is that I WOULD like to meet a decent man, who loves God and has values...but, I do not think he exists.
How can I be a positive single person but without being bitter about marriage and totally throwing that option out?