- Oct 3, 2017
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Lutheran
- Marital Status
- Married
I am almost 49 years old. I am married and I have two teenage children. The last two years of my life, everything I know has changed. I lost my mother to cancer October 31, 2015. Since her death my whole, neat and tidy little world has changed. I have taken her place in the family. My father is still living. My parents did not have the best marriage and I know this. There were times they were down right nasty to each other. My father moved on rather quickly after my mother passed. Within a year he was making plans to marry someone new. He told us the day after the one year anniversary of my mother's death that he had asked his girlfriend to marry him. I was devastated but did want my dad to be happy. I am torn. Since he has been with this woman, everything revolves around her. She has total control. My father had an affair on my mother when I was a child. I found out the truth years later, but always knew that something had happened. My mother retaliated by having an affair as well. This has hurt me so much that it stays with me even today. I confront my dad all the time and tell him how I feel and he blows it off. Since he has gotten with his new wife he does not really spend time with us anymore. He gives her attention and affection that he never gave me, my mother, my sister or my kids. He recently had his lawyer draw up a Durable POA that gives her control of everything and I only have a say if she dies. He makes me so sad with his actions, that I am seriously considering cutting him out of my life. Last year he told my son he would be al all his football games. He made it to two. My sister and I needed our dad after my mom died and he could not be bothered. In the last two years I have: watched my mother die, moved back home from Sc, seen my dad form a new relationship, started a new job, bought a house, struggled with my daughter's failing grades, attended my father's wedding, watched him sell our family home of 30 years and all while trying to maintain a home and family. I am devastated that he shows this woman the love and affection that we, as his family, are not worthy of. So opinions please, should I cut him out of my life?