I think LiberatedChick outlined it wonderfully.
rosalind110 said:
I hope that nothing I have written here will cause offense, as I seem to have an unfortunate talent for doing that.
I cant speak for other, but I am not easily offended, so please dont think you have offended me.
I was just explaining why I wasnt going to be responding to all the old posts. If you think you have missed the discussion on this topic that was covered in many of the early posts, dont worry. If you stick around the marriage ministries long enough, you will see the topic reemerge again and again.
rosalind110 said:
On the subject now in hand, I still feel that the wording of Ephesians 5 as we know it, in relation to obligations in marriage does, perhaps unintentionally, or because of poor translation, imply that there is a kind of three stage system ('chain of command', was probably a bad choice of words) involved in the process.
First, I want to make it clear that I do not purport to have all the answers. What I am sharing is simply what I have gained from studying so far. I am simply one human trying to grasp the Truth, and this is simply my understanding right now on the journey to seeking it.
Regarding the passage in Ephesians 5 that you were posting about. We read it with our language and punctuation and infer meaning from this format. But we must remember that it was not written like this in the original language. When Paul wrote this passage, the portions on submission were part of a greater sentence writen in a particular language and grammer structure, and the reader would have known how to interpret the phrase accordingly. Basically, the sentence begins by telling us to be filled with the spirit, and then lists various ways we are to do so. It is as though being filled with the spirit is the umbrella of the sentence, and then the rest of it fits under it. Submitting to one another is a way we act when filled with the spirit. Now, the what-is-now verses that follow the point of submission are still part of that same phrase, which informs us that Paul is explaining how to submit to one another. They are under the submission umbrella, if you will. We know this, for example, because it does not say wives submit. It just says wives to your husbands (the word submit is absent). But we know it is talking about submission because it is all in the same phrase, and follows the Greek language structure to do so. In the same way, we know that the message to husbands is also under the same umbrella, explaining how they are to submit to their wives. Here is an idea of how we would read it in the original language.
Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery, instead, be
filled with the Spirit
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speaking to one another with psalms, hymns and songs from the Spirit.
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sing and make music from your heart to the Lord,
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always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.
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Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
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Wives to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
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Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless in this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies he who loves his wife loves himself after all, people have never hated their own bodies, but they feed and care for them, just as Christ does the church for we are members of his body
I am presently away from home at the moment, so I dont have my resources with me, and cant be sure that that is exactly where this sentence ends. So I am not clear if it continues after where I stopped or not. Anyway, see here that Paul is outlining how to be filled with the spirit. One of the ways we are to be filled is by submitting to one another. This is to all believers (hence men are to submit to all believers [including their wives], just like women). Paul then takes that point and explains how this submission is to take place in marriage. Since the message to both husbands and wives is under that, we know he is talking about submission in marriage. Just as he doesnt have to include the word submit to wives here, he doesnt have to use the word submit again to direct husbands either. In the original language, since both the message to husbands and wives is under the heading of submission, it is a given that that is what he is describing.