Hey there!
Well I would say that this life is definately NOT EASY!! Any AMENS out there???
Anyway, all I can say is that some things are going to be a daily struggle. Everyone has there things that satan uses to get them to fall, so keep that in mind. Satan knows your marraige is going through troubles & he is now sending in the 2nd part of his plan (the other women). So , I would say steer clear!!Don't fall in that pit, it is not easy to get out.
In the book some things that were recommended :
-Would be to imagine yourself with this person like 1 year down the road, then 5 years. Think about the people you would hurt if you would follow through on your thoughts. And remember everyone looks good before you know the real them.
-the other thing would be to maybe focus on something negative about the person, like everyone has faults (example: big nose, rude habits, weird hair, etc.) then instead of thinking they are attractive , think on the negative things about them.
Most of all I can say , is stay close to God. Do things with other couples, dig into the bible with a friend, work at putting that spark back in your marraige by falling in love with her again.
Trust me , the grass is not always greener, even though it might look good from where your standing...