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It's so overwhelming and overstimulating. I constantly feel like I am not being listened to because the other person talks so much, they never hear me. It makes my anxiety so much worse.

How do you deal with this?
 

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Sometimes a relationship will consist of mostly one person talking. Then, when the quiet one speaks, the verbose person interrupts them, because they aren't used to listening. I've been there before. Sometimes you just have to push through that until they learn to listen. In other cases, they could be a narcissist with no interest in other people.
 
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Sometimes a relationship will consist of mostly one person talking. Then, when the quiet one speaks, the verbose person interrupts them, because they aren't used to listening. I've been there before. Sometimes you just have to push through that until they learn to listen. In other cases, they could be a narcissist with no interest in other people.
Thanks for your response. :) I appreciate it
 
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It's so overwhelming and overstimulating. I constantly feel like I am not being listened to because the other person talks so much, they never hear me. It makes my anxiety so much worse.

How do you deal with this?
I have said,. "May I say something". It's a shocker so be prepared.
 
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It's so overwhelming and overstimulating. I constantly feel like I am not being listened to because the other person talks so much, they never hear me. It makes my anxiety so much worse.

How do you deal with this?
Turn around in the middle of your looking at them directly in the eyes or face as they are in the middle of talking/speaking and go off and start walking off to go do your own thing, or break out your headphones and stick them in your ears and start listening to something else in the middle of their talking and walk away, etc...

It's a non-verbal form of communication/message to them, etc...

Maybe they'll get it, or maybe they won't, but either way, it's not your problem, etc, just do your own thing, you shouldn't have to sit around and be tormented by constantly listening to all of their running their mouth/shooting off at the mouth, and all of their stupidity, etc...

Especially when they will not listen to yours at all, which is most of the time not stupidity, etc...

Sometimes I think I panic because I feel myself automatically getting dumber automatically, just by listening to all of their stupidity, etc...

So I'll just walk off or walk away right in the middle of their talking now, etc...

In my mind, I shouldn't have to put up with it, and so, I don't anymore, etc...

They'll either get it, or understand the point, or they won't, either way, it's not your problem, etc...

Tell them your going to go off over here for a minute and have a much more interesting time/intelligent conversation staring at/talking to this moss over here growing on a rock, etc...

God Bless!
 
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Turn around in the middle of your looking at them directly in the eyes or face as they are in the middle of talking/speaking and go off and start walking off to go do your own thing, or break out your headphones and stick them in your ears and start listening to something else in the middle of their talking and walk away, etc...

It's a non-verbal form of communication/message to them, etc...

Maybe they'll get it, or maybe they won't, but either way, it's not your problem, etc, just do your own thing, you shouldn't have to sit around and be tormented by constantly listening to all of their running their mouth/shooting off at the mouth, and all of their stupidity, etc...

Especially when they will not listen to yours at all, which is most of the time not stupidity, etc...

Sometimes I think I panic because I feel myself automatically getting dumber automatically, just by listening to all of their stupidity, etc...

So I'll just walk off or walk away right in the middle of their talking now, etc...

In my mind, I shouldn't have to put up with it, and so, I don't anymore, etc...

They'll either get it, or understand the point, or they won't, either way, it's not your problem, etc...

Tell them your going to go off over here for a minute and have a much more interesting time/intelligent conversation staring at/talking to this moss over here growing on a rock, etc...

God Bless!

Thank you for your advice.

God bless
 
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Sounds to me like you need to get rid of some toxic people in your life. Find people who listen, its difficult with people being so self centered and narcissistic but there are people out there who aren't. Try connecting with someone on a more than superficial way.
 
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