Sunbeam
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If you have felt you have given yourself away somewhat, you have that awareness now to remedy it, not make things worse. This is your choice. You are old enough to know better and have this choice. This is a serious matter.
Women are the weaker sex and we cannot take a lust problem like men can so easily. It ruins us inside. Look around and listen within to the Spirit and learn. We are put in dangers of rape, pregnacy, and men who have diseases that come on to us. Once you feel you are used to it, by sex even once you enjoy, you can also feel that you cannot wait to have more. People often have sex without protection because they have lost control once they are used to it and like it. they say 'oh the hell with it this once is alright' It is times like this one that can open you to diseases because of not using protection, sometimes the condoms break as well. Sometimes young people get so out of control, even older people, that they forget to take their pills too. So they are not taking pills and are having unprotected sex at times as well and they are around people that are lustful and may overpower them when they are not on the pill. Now if you get a disease that is not curable, you have problems with feeling slimy and a really good man you won't feel worthy of even if you are, or he may not want you when he finds out. You may also start to judge your spouses performance too harshly in the future. Life doesn't revolve completely around sex in marriage. As the marriage goes on, people's feelings for their spouse develop an secondary and added-on chemistry based on how they emotionally feel with each other. If they don't have self-control or fight and do not know how to restrain anger and forgive and do not have the strength to do these things, bitterness develops in the spiritually immature. Now you have a spouse that is highly sexual and you are feeling the opposite since men are stimulated by 'immature fighting' and women are most often drained by it especially as they age. Peaceful spiritual people have sex more often though. Now the man who was so good in bed before marriage has another problem with you, you don't want to have sex with him as often and you can add this to the list of problems that came from you not choosing a spouse based on spiritual values, habits, goals, peace, and respect as well as attraction. Once people get on the sex kick, they will often marry people they are not compatible with. Do you feel for others who are stuck in marriages with men that are controlling, demanding, forceful, bad tempered? This is a tradegy for them. The women can become complete basketcases for a while or become *****es that severely disturb their health, and the spiritual gifts will leave because there is no peace. It is very disorienting for them. And it is extremely difficult for them to regain an innocence of emotional/spiritual balance if they are dealing with a selfish demanding man who may just go out and have affairs because he is not the type to wait around. This is where people get so angry and bitter that it ruins their soul. They have a right to be disappointed but anger is a soul killer. If you want to be selfish and deal with selfish people, and not realize the consequences that are very common, you are really putting yourself at risk for alot of confusion and disorientation. Sexual diseases and abortions are a big secret with women today. It is much much more common than what people will talk about or admit because it is disgusting. Having a child out of wedlock or a forced marriage is the type of stress that since you care about your child, you are going to have a real hard time constraining your anger and feelings when things go wrong, and this lack of restraint will ruin your soul. If you think you have problems now, these problems are a continuing burden, where people are restless and often develop eating disorders and are complaining all the time with this horrible emptiness inside that makes them feel that they have a right to be *****. They have problems that are not easy to deal with at all.
How many things just are stimulating you in the wrong way? Food, music, vain clothes/makeup, anger at parents (you said they aren't saved), anxiety. If you can get yourself together and pray calmly and honestly til the emotions even themselves out and find a local woman christian that is peaceful and caring, that would probably be the best thing for you.
I believe that you can lose your salvation, which is called an arminian view, (Assembly of God is one such church with this view, they are a somewhat "liberal" church though but they are at least serious about the arminian view in most cases unless they are one of the ones that is arrogant and there are some of them around, they believe in gifts and they respect women, and have worship music that is often very intense and satisfying to younger people)and how do you know how long your life will be? You don't know how long your life is and willful fornication is a deep sin that will keep you out of heaven if it is unrepented of. This is a doorway to alot of sins as well. The bar scene and drugs, impatient music, and ruining of the self-restraint and goals, and lack of mature caring people all are possible when you also state that you don't care about God's ways and commandments. You will put at risk your ability to have spiritual gifts as well.
I am a virgin still by the way. I am attractive too, and have had opportunities.
A good church with a good youth group and good hobbies like kickboxing/ selfdefense, ministries that help others and care about them, helping your peers, and other normal ways to build up confidence are highly satisfying in this life and the next.
Women are the weaker sex and we cannot take a lust problem like men can so easily. It ruins us inside. Look around and listen within to the Spirit and learn. We are put in dangers of rape, pregnacy, and men who have diseases that come on to us. Once you feel you are used to it, by sex even once you enjoy, you can also feel that you cannot wait to have more. People often have sex without protection because they have lost control once they are used to it and like it. they say 'oh the hell with it this once is alright' It is times like this one that can open you to diseases because of not using protection, sometimes the condoms break as well. Sometimes young people get so out of control, even older people, that they forget to take their pills too. So they are not taking pills and are having unprotected sex at times as well and they are around people that are lustful and may overpower them when they are not on the pill. Now if you get a disease that is not curable, you have problems with feeling slimy and a really good man you won't feel worthy of even if you are, or he may not want you when he finds out. You may also start to judge your spouses performance too harshly in the future. Life doesn't revolve completely around sex in marriage. As the marriage goes on, people's feelings for their spouse develop an secondary and added-on chemistry based on how they emotionally feel with each other. If they don't have self-control or fight and do not know how to restrain anger and forgive and do not have the strength to do these things, bitterness develops in the spiritually immature. Now you have a spouse that is highly sexual and you are feeling the opposite since men are stimulated by 'immature fighting' and women are most often drained by it especially as they age. Peaceful spiritual people have sex more often though. Now the man who was so good in bed before marriage has another problem with you, you don't want to have sex with him as often and you can add this to the list of problems that came from you not choosing a spouse based on spiritual values, habits, goals, peace, and respect as well as attraction. Once people get on the sex kick, they will often marry people they are not compatible with. Do you feel for others who are stuck in marriages with men that are controlling, demanding, forceful, bad tempered? This is a tradegy for them. The women can become complete basketcases for a while or become *****es that severely disturb their health, and the spiritual gifts will leave because there is no peace. It is very disorienting for them. And it is extremely difficult for them to regain an innocence of emotional/spiritual balance if they are dealing with a selfish demanding man who may just go out and have affairs because he is not the type to wait around. This is where people get so angry and bitter that it ruins their soul. They have a right to be disappointed but anger is a soul killer. If you want to be selfish and deal with selfish people, and not realize the consequences that are very common, you are really putting yourself at risk for alot of confusion and disorientation. Sexual diseases and abortions are a big secret with women today. It is much much more common than what people will talk about or admit because it is disgusting. Having a child out of wedlock or a forced marriage is the type of stress that since you care about your child, you are going to have a real hard time constraining your anger and feelings when things go wrong, and this lack of restraint will ruin your soul. If you think you have problems now, these problems are a continuing burden, where people are restless and often develop eating disorders and are complaining all the time with this horrible emptiness inside that makes them feel that they have a right to be *****. They have problems that are not easy to deal with at all.
How many things just are stimulating you in the wrong way? Food, music, vain clothes/makeup, anger at parents (you said they aren't saved), anxiety. If you can get yourself together and pray calmly and honestly til the emotions even themselves out and find a local woman christian that is peaceful and caring, that would probably be the best thing for you.
I believe that you can lose your salvation, which is called an arminian view, (Assembly of God is one such church with this view, they are a somewhat "liberal" church though but they are at least serious about the arminian view in most cases unless they are one of the ones that is arrogant and there are some of them around, they believe in gifts and they respect women, and have worship music that is often very intense and satisfying to younger people)and how do you know how long your life will be? You don't know how long your life is and willful fornication is a deep sin that will keep you out of heaven if it is unrepented of. This is a doorway to alot of sins as well. The bar scene and drugs, impatient music, and ruining of the self-restraint and goals, and lack of mature caring people all are possible when you also state that you don't care about God's ways and commandments. You will put at risk your ability to have spiritual gifts as well.
I am a virgin still by the way. I am attractive too, and have had opportunities.
A good church with a good youth group and good hobbies like kickboxing/ selfdefense, ministries that help others and care about them, helping your peers, and other normal ways to build up confidence are highly satisfying in this life and the next.
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