returnn23
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Wow.
First, if you're in it for power and control, you're not looking for a partner.
When I was dating, I met someone who was intelligent, raised properly, and we quickly realized we were on the same page. I was the gentleman, she was the lady. Both of us had been taught good manners. I paid for dinner, I opened doors for her. She was appreciative and a lot of fun to be with. We could talk about anything - within appropriate limits - and God was an important part of our lives. We could go to the store or do some small chore together and just enjoyed each other's company. Trust had to be earned. On our first few dates, I could only meet her somewhere. Then she said I could pick her up. We didn't have everything in common but enough where we had all these wonderful conversations.
As time passed, things got even better. We had a few disagreements, as all couples do. A few misunderstandings. But we got through them.
Starting with the shrill Women's Liberation movement, too many women thought, "I'm not going to wait for the guy. I'm going to be aggressive. And if I want to have sex with the guy, I will." THAT is the big mistake. Sex first and ask questions later or not at all? That's not rational. You don't really know the guy. And later, if you find out he's a drinker or gambler or jerk, then what? The same for men. I was approached by a young lady for sex. I passed. I barely knew her. That's not a good starting point.
A friend of mine found a nice girl. She made more money than him. They really liked each other and just got married. They were together for a while.
First, if you're in it for power and control, you're not looking for a partner.
When I was dating, I met someone who was intelligent, raised properly, and we quickly realized we were on the same page. I was the gentleman, she was the lady. Both of us had been taught good manners. I paid for dinner, I opened doors for her. She was appreciative and a lot of fun to be with. We could talk about anything - within appropriate limits - and God was an important part of our lives. We could go to the store or do some small chore together and just enjoyed each other's company. Trust had to be earned. On our first few dates, I could only meet her somewhere. Then she said I could pick her up. We didn't have everything in common but enough where we had all these wonderful conversations.
As time passed, things got even better. We had a few disagreements, as all couples do. A few misunderstandings. But we got through them.
Starting with the shrill Women's Liberation movement, too many women thought, "I'm not going to wait for the guy. I'm going to be aggressive. And if I want to have sex with the guy, I will." THAT is the big mistake. Sex first and ask questions later or not at all? That's not rational. You don't really know the guy. And later, if you find out he's a drinker or gambler or jerk, then what? The same for men. I was approached by a young lady for sex. I passed. I barely knew her. That's not a good starting point.
A friend of mine found a nice girl. She made more money than him. They really liked each other and just got married. They were together for a while.
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