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One thing that I have been impressed with while watching the English TV series Father Brown is, aside from his crime solving ability, is the love for his church and what it stands for, especially the confessional. If I ever decided to turn Catholic, I think I would love to have a parish priest like him. I know it is a fictional series based on the novels by G. K. Chesterton, but it does have some good principles.
What I want to discuss is the Confessional. Although I believe that we should confess our sins and shortcomings to God and receive forgiveness and cleansing from Him, there is a place for confessing out faults to someone we trust. That person cannot absolve us from our sins as a Catholic priest believes, but there is assurance and comfort in sharing our shortcomings and faults with another brother or sister in Christ.
The thing I am impressed about the Catholic Confessional is that it is totally confidential. Not even a court of law can compel a priest to violate the Confessional. In one episode a murderer confessed to a murder to Father Brown, but the Father could not turn him into the police because of the sanctity of the Confessional. In this case it was a wife who was the victim of serious domestic violence and she was in fear of her life. She escaped the country and the priest couldn't (and didn't want to) stop her. If it was shared outside of the Confessional, the priest would know that it was his duty to report her to the police.
I think the principles of the Confessional need to be learned by other churches, pastors and elders who counsel their members in what are supposed to be confidential sessions. Many good counsellors respect the privacy of their clients and secrets are kept permanently. But others don't, sometimes gossiping to others, or by accident.
I was in a church where members were being counselled for personal problems by the elders (it was an elder-run church, that I attended in the 1970s). Many complained that their personal problems which they had shared in confidence were becoming widely known among the congregation. When I sought to find out why, I discovered how many of these confidences were betrayed. What would happen was an elder would counsel a member, say, about his sexual desires. Then the elder would engaged in "pillow talk" with his wife and share what happened during his day, and part of that would share that he had counselled a young man (named) about his personal problem, What the wife would do would be to attend the mid-week prayer meeting, and pray out loud, "We pray for Jack so that he could get the victory over his sinful sexual desires", and maybe giving more details for clarity. Maybe the elder's wife had sincere intentions, but unfortunately there were women in that prayer group who were inclined to gossip, and they would go from the prayer meeting and have morning tea with others "sisters in the Lord" and would say, "Do you know what I heard about Jack? He has a serious sexual sin problem". Often the Chinese Whisper syndrome where details get exaggerated with the retelling, before long, Jack would have the reputation among the women in the church that he is involved in sexual sin and the young ladies of the church should be wary of him because if they get into a relationship with him, it will end up being a sexual one. This is just one example of how a confidential counselling session can be spread around the church, especially in a church community which is close and everyone knew each other as close friends. In many churches this is how innocent persons private lives can be made public when it should not be.
I guess the Confessional is relatively safe because Catholic priests are celebate, and don't have wives to share things with, so that temptation is removed from them. But this is a good item for discussion, and fruitful discussion would be welcome.
What I want to discuss is the Confessional. Although I believe that we should confess our sins and shortcomings to God and receive forgiveness and cleansing from Him, there is a place for confessing out faults to someone we trust. That person cannot absolve us from our sins as a Catholic priest believes, but there is assurance and comfort in sharing our shortcomings and faults with another brother or sister in Christ.
The thing I am impressed about the Catholic Confessional is that it is totally confidential. Not even a court of law can compel a priest to violate the Confessional. In one episode a murderer confessed to a murder to Father Brown, but the Father could not turn him into the police because of the sanctity of the Confessional. In this case it was a wife who was the victim of serious domestic violence and she was in fear of her life. She escaped the country and the priest couldn't (and didn't want to) stop her. If it was shared outside of the Confessional, the priest would know that it was his duty to report her to the police.
I think the principles of the Confessional need to be learned by other churches, pastors and elders who counsel their members in what are supposed to be confidential sessions. Many good counsellors respect the privacy of their clients and secrets are kept permanently. But others don't, sometimes gossiping to others, or by accident.
I was in a church where members were being counselled for personal problems by the elders (it was an elder-run church, that I attended in the 1970s). Many complained that their personal problems which they had shared in confidence were becoming widely known among the congregation. When I sought to find out why, I discovered how many of these confidences were betrayed. What would happen was an elder would counsel a member, say, about his sexual desires. Then the elder would engaged in "pillow talk" with his wife and share what happened during his day, and part of that would share that he had counselled a young man (named) about his personal problem, What the wife would do would be to attend the mid-week prayer meeting, and pray out loud, "We pray for Jack so that he could get the victory over his sinful sexual desires", and maybe giving more details for clarity. Maybe the elder's wife had sincere intentions, but unfortunately there were women in that prayer group who were inclined to gossip, and they would go from the prayer meeting and have morning tea with others "sisters in the Lord" and would say, "Do you know what I heard about Jack? He has a serious sexual sin problem". Often the Chinese Whisper syndrome where details get exaggerated with the retelling, before long, Jack would have the reputation among the women in the church that he is involved in sexual sin and the young ladies of the church should be wary of him because if they get into a relationship with him, it will end up being a sexual one. This is just one example of how a confidential counselling session can be spread around the church, especially in a church community which is close and everyone knew each other as close friends. In many churches this is how innocent persons private lives can be made public when it should not be.
I guess the Confessional is relatively safe because Catholic priests are celebate, and don't have wives to share things with, so that temptation is removed from them. But this is a good item for discussion, and fruitful discussion would be welcome.