Oh? Then argue the deficiency, rather than objecting to coersion or other peripheral issues.
I have argued the deficiency. I have pointed out that people who are wounded, broken, traumatised, or otherwise struggling, are harmed by the expectation that they share all of that with all and sundry. Time, space, and relationships of safety and trust are essential to healing.
It's not that I don't see the potential harm you are concerned with, it is that the potential for harm is outweighed by the potential benefits.
No. No no no no no. We cannot harm others because of potential benefits.
First, do no harm, is as important in the cure of souls as it is in the cure of bodies.
Simply because in extreme cases, when handled poorly some individuals may expose themselves to a potential harm does not negate positive community ethics.
It's not that extreme, though. In most congregations of any size, there will be many people with such needs.
You think God let's harm befall us that is not ultimately for our good? Perhaps you should examine the life of Joseph to be relieved of your unbelief.
God will bring good out of bad situations, but that does not mean we should not be appropriately self-protective.
Note: the accusation of unbelief is a flame, and likely to get you a warning from the moderators. I suggest you avoid such accusations.
I am not laying out a plan nor an outline, simply pointing to an ideal that would be good to strive for.
Except it's not good for everyone in all situations, so as an ideal, it's pretty flawed.
Again, the issue you're articulating is peripheral at best...
I think it's pretty central to the practice of ministry, actually.
A community that engages in coercive pressuring behaviors is definitely a problem, but having normative behaviors in and of themselves are not a problem even though they do create pressure to conform.
I don't think I agree. Pressure to conform - except on the most basic of levels necessary for the existence of a community, as noted above - almost certainly is a problem.
There will be normative group ethics, and a pastor who fails to strategically apply pressure to direct his congregation towards positive group ethics is negligent.
Always there must be free choice, though. Coercion in ministry is abusive.
Which opens the door for licentiousness.
The restraint needs to be internal, a matter of conscience; not external, a matter of control.
The issue is you have not articulated how the expectation itself is harmful, but have instead argued in such a way that renders any expectation at all suspect.
It's both. Expectations in general are suspect, but this particular expectation is especially problematic. Forcing disclosure is a terrible, terrible thing to do to someone.
Encouraging, and acting to foster, an environment in which the normal and expected behavior is a disposition of trust and openness in confession is not ignorant of trauma, nor is it unprofessional, nor is it careless to potential damage.
A disposition of trust is a good thing. It must be allowed to grow naturally, not expecting people to trust before they're ready. To say otherwise is certainly problematic in the ways I've outlined.