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Confessing past sins to parents

Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by Nika Yermakova, May 21, 2019.

  1. Nika Yermakova

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    Should I confess to my parents about my past sin or do it in a few years? I doubt they will understand now and will most likely punish me or be very angry and not trust me.. and I'm very scared. I'm still only in highschool and I've already gotten so deep into sin, I'm so ashamed of it. Talking about being molested in the past and my depression and past suicidal thoughts and bad friends. I want to do public speaking in the future and tell my story but my parents need to be aware first right? And idk if I should tell EVERYTHING. I feel like as long as the sin is not eating you inside and you confessed to a pastor or friend and you repented that it's okay to keep it inside. Not everyone has to know right? Idk what to do tbh. I repented with my whole heart on Saturday and I feel so happy.. yesterday I was praising God and started to cry because I was so happy that I am forgiven and can start new again. I'm born again.

    But I feel ashamed too, ashamed of my past sin. I'm scared of other people will think of me or look down at me or say mean things. I don't want the rest of my family to find out, like my relatives. Because they usually spread lots of rumors and talk behind people's backs sometimes. I feel like I'm being too open and that I need to talk less because I'm still healing and I'm not ready for the whole world to know my past. I've been thinking about this for so long and it's bothering me. I'm really afraid. My cousin told me to tell them but that I could do it in a few years when I am more mature and after I get baptized next year. So that they can see that I am healed and that I'm growing and that that was in the past and I'm different.
     
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  2. Gracia Singh

    Gracia Singh Newbie Supporter

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    You don't need to tell your parents everything. Confessing to God and seeking His pardon and grace is what matters most.

    It's ok to keep some things to yourself, unless you're in danger. If you're in danger, or need help.
     
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  3. Phoebe Ann

    Phoebe Ann From Mormonism to Christ Supporter

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    I would keep it between you and God (at least for now).
     
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  4. quietpraiyze

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    You have repented (to God) and turned away from your former sin(s). That is all that is required of you. You do not have to share your former sin(s) with anybody. Read and bind Psalm 103:10-13 to your heart. Be well....
     
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  5. paul1149

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    I would keep it to yourself unless you feel a specific leading otherwise. Read James 3, the last part of the chapter, about the characteristics of God's wisdom. Peace is a major attendant to the wisdom from above. I would resolve to do only that which makes for spiritual peace within you. And when you are unclear about it, give it time and seek the Lord through the Word, prayer and maybe some fasting as you might be able.

    Generally, I don't think there is any obligation to tell parents everything, and in cases where abuse is possible is it wise not to. Give it time and pay attention to you inner peace quotient.

    Congrats on your new intimacy with the Lord.
     
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  6. Peter J Barban

    Peter J Barban Well-Known Member

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    You say that you want to be a public speaker and tell your story publically - that means it will get back to your family and their neighbors. They will certainly be angry/hurt/embarrassed that you are telling the world but never told them directly.

    This action could really hurt your parents and your relationship with them. Building a strong trusting relationship with your parents is far more important than sharing your story in public.

    And if your parents don't want you to share your story with others, you should certainly wait until you are a mature independent adult before going against their wishes.
     
  7. Nika Yermakova

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    Thank you, you're right <3
     
  8. Nika Yermakova

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    Yes, for now I decided I'll keep it to myself until I turn 18 or after/before I get baptized. Basically when I feel like its the right time. Because right now I'm 99.99% sure that they will only yell and not understand. So I want to wait.
     
  9. Nika Yermakova

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    Thank you ❤❤
     
  10. Nika Yermakova

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    Yes I will surely tell them before I begin talking about this publically. I was actually thinking about telling them now but I know that's not a good idea and that I need time to show them that I have matured and have understanding that I have sinned, I want them to see that I have grown and learned from my mistakes and can make my own decisions. I love them and I want to be honest with them, espicially if I'm planning to do public speaking. But I'm still only in highschool so I'll wait and pray about it to see what God wants me to do. Thank you for your replies.
     
  11. SeventhFisherofMen

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    My immediate thought was don’t say something you’ll regret in the future.

    I know your motive but still, if you’ve confessed to God that’s all that matters. You could tell friends or a Pastor but even then I really believe that God is enough.
     
  12. eleos1954

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    You have been born again and starting a new life in Christ. Study His word diligently and become more mature in your understanding and faith. The Lord will let you know when and if you should discuss your previous sins with your parents. Give yourself time to grown in your relationship with Jesus.

    God Bless.
     
  13. carp614

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    God Bless you Nika. Welcome to the body of Christ my sister!
    Shame over past sin is natural. I think we all have it. My shame over my past sin has lost its power over me though, because I have submitted my life and will over to Jesus Christ and repented. Accept that your repentance frees you from the weight of your shame, even though you still feel it. It is important that you talk to a pastor about these things.

    Parents can be incredibly difficult to deal with, particularly at your age. It sounds like there is some brokenness in your family, making things even more difficult. But I believe that the Holy Spirit can pave the way to healing for your family. I pray that you will be so overcome by the Love of God that your family will see the love and peace in you and soften their hearts. When this happens, you will have opportunities to talk about these things not just for you to heal but for the Lord to help heal your whole family.

    Imagine the power of your testimony if you are saved and your family is healed too. They could be your first and most fruitful ministry opportunity.
     
  14. DM25

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    Pray to God about it and if he wants you to talk to your parents you can. You don't have to though.
     
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