- Sep 19, 2022
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Good Morning!
Roughly 3 years ago, my girlfriend and I moved from our parents homes in South Florida to homestead outside of Greenwood, South Carolina. We are now engaged, bought a home, and are getting ready to be married in less than 30 days!
We both grew up in a fairly strict Protestant church and school where Rev. D. James Kennedy preached. I will say regarding our faith, it has had its ups and downs....but we are a little shocked to see the churches in the the "Bible Belt" of America..
We started off going to a church called New Covenant in Greenwood, SC - they are pretty contemporary with Sunday worship and all-in-all its a great place! They have a pretty large amount of people from the surrounding areas that attend. There have been a few things that have been bothering us though....
1.) The entire church seems "fake." I am not sure if we were raised a little differently, but this seems more like a social event with encouraging words than it is a bible study/sermon. The sad part is that many churches in the area seem to be this way as well.
2.) They rejected to marry us due to living together "in sin." We both agree that we are living out of wedlock together, but with the economy the way it is, we would have not been able to do what we have been blessed with in buying a home with acreage, or moving to South Carolina. We originally came to them specifically requesting help and pre-marital counseling and they completely turned us away. The assistant pastor said we needed to be more "involved" as they don't want to marry us and just disappear - which I understand! But the way we were treated really put a thorn in my side.
3.) The pastor has been speaking about community outreach, and how if you are going to church on Sunday, and not volunteering in small groups - then you have no place in church. This was the biggest shock these past few weeks. The pastor's sermons have become somewhat "angry" as he says he is very "passionate" about the community aspect. Even people we met in the church are a little put off. I will admit community and outreach is a large part of the church, but the way he words it is very..."offensive" sounding.
My fiancé and I now have resorted to having a friend of ours do our wedding ceremony as we cannot seem to find a pastor willing to marry us. It's sad to say but the churches up here have really left a sour taste in my mouth and I'm having a very hard time getting it out. Has anyone else had an experience like this? Or how to fix it?
Roughly 3 years ago, my girlfriend and I moved from our parents homes in South Florida to homestead outside of Greenwood, South Carolina. We are now engaged, bought a home, and are getting ready to be married in less than 30 days!
We both grew up in a fairly strict Protestant church and school where Rev. D. James Kennedy preached. I will say regarding our faith, it has had its ups and downs....but we are a little shocked to see the churches in the the "Bible Belt" of America..
We started off going to a church called New Covenant in Greenwood, SC - they are pretty contemporary with Sunday worship and all-in-all its a great place! They have a pretty large amount of people from the surrounding areas that attend. There have been a few things that have been bothering us though....
1.) The entire church seems "fake." I am not sure if we were raised a little differently, but this seems more like a social event with encouraging words than it is a bible study/sermon. The sad part is that many churches in the area seem to be this way as well.
2.) They rejected to marry us due to living together "in sin." We both agree that we are living out of wedlock together, but with the economy the way it is, we would have not been able to do what we have been blessed with in buying a home with acreage, or moving to South Carolina. We originally came to them specifically requesting help and pre-marital counseling and they completely turned us away. The assistant pastor said we needed to be more "involved" as they don't want to marry us and just disappear - which I understand! But the way we were treated really put a thorn in my side.
3.) The pastor has been speaking about community outreach, and how if you are going to church on Sunday, and not volunteering in small groups - then you have no place in church. This was the biggest shock these past few weeks. The pastor's sermons have become somewhat "angry" as he says he is very "passionate" about the community aspect. Even people we met in the church are a little put off. I will admit community and outreach is a large part of the church, but the way he words it is very..."offensive" sounding.
My fiancé and I now have resorted to having a friend of ours do our wedding ceremony as we cannot seem to find a pastor willing to marry us. It's sad to say but the churches up here have really left a sour taste in my mouth and I'm having a very hard time getting it out. Has anyone else had an experience like this? Or how to fix it?