I'm really curious to hear what you actually felt and experienced, I have a good idea of what the Bible says.
I'm really curious to hear what you actually felt and experienced, I have a good idea of what the Bible says.
They often say "Better to marry and avoid sexual sin!". Problem is all too often I find these couples end up divorcing. Sure, they married and enjoy sex with each other but they weren't a good match for enjoying the rest of life together. Marrying to satisfy the urge of sex is a double edge sword. Because if it ends then you are in yet another sin of adultery.
My view is if you are in sexually sin and not married, talk with each other about how you feel about various aspects of life to see if you would actually work in a marriage. Do you believe the same as they do? What do they think qualifies as "being saved"? What do they think about the punishment of a kid? What do they think of gender roles? How many kids do you want? Do you even want kids? Do they care about looks or heart? Are the willing to make things work or just give up after a fight?
There are SOOOO many issues that need to be talked about ahead of time. Most couples just think "being in love" will get them through marriage but that's more of a "hoping for the best" thing then anything else.
All this said I lost my virginity to a woman I intended to marry. We ended up splitting because she had severe mental issues. I can see looking back we would have never worked out. But I was to blindly in love at the time to notice. I knew hands down in my heart we would work. So blind.
Now as for my wife. She was not a virgin either when we met. Sex was obviously wonderful and what not. But you at times remember how you gave up your virginity to someone you shouldn't have. But you grow past it and move on. One other thing is sex is not the same with every person. So if someone ends up splitting with someone and finding a new love and they marry, they don't realize it can be very different. "How come you don't like this?" or "When I was with my ex we had sex alot, you don't like to!".
Again, if you are going to marry. Make sure you are both ready. Sex either way can become an issue later on.
I'm really curious to hear what you actually felt and experienced, I have a good idea of what the Bible says.
IMO it is because almost everyone here grew up post-sexual revolution of the mid-late 1960s.I can understand why CF has a rule against its promotion. They don’t want to promote anything generally seen as immoral by Christians. I just don’t get why there were so many similar responses.
While I realize this all may be shut down as we are skating on thin ice here, i will answer the OP.I'm really curious to hear what you actually felt and experienced, I have a good idea of what the Bible says.
Not Christian here. But it felt really good and I liked the experience.I'm really curious to hear what you actually felt and experienced, I have a good idea of what the Bible says.
I’m genuinely surprised that the Christians here are all saying they’re ok with pre-marital sex. Could someone elaborate on that? Scripture, Christian ethics, life experiences, etc? (I’m a virgin who has never been in a relationship so I have nothing to say). I do, however, have some Christian friends that as far as I know waited until marriage. Did they do wrong, right, or is it an individual judgment issue? I thought pre-marital sex was a sin, but nothing in Scripture seems to explicitly say that, likely because back then people were in arranged marriages and got married earlier.
How would you promote abstinence as obedience to God while avoiding the problems with "purity culture" as you see it?It's one thing to point toward devoting oneself to chastity as a good thing.
It's quite another to treat abstaining from sex as some be-all and end-all of Christian virtue and the inherent problems with modern purity culture.
Human worth is not determined by one's virginal status.
Purity culture is harmful and destructive and inherently unChristian.
-CryptoLutheran
How would you promote abstinence as obedience to God while avoiding the problems with "purity culture" as you see it?
First off - get rid of the lies in purity culture - like it being evil to have romantic feelings and attractions, and that having a crush on someone takes away a piece of your heart that you can not recover and give to your future spouse.How would you promote abstinence as obedience to God while avoiding the problems with "purity culture" as you see it?
I agree. But perhaps we should treat lying and anger as things to be avoided as much as premarital sex.So why would we treat engaging in consenting sexual activity with someone as worse than lying or anger?