I would like to have your opinions and also verses from the Bible about the right attitude of a Christian when faced with abuse. I am thinking especially domestic and psychological abuse. Is assertiveness non-Christian? Is self-defense non-Christian?Too many people are convinced of this. Too many times women in abusive marriages are advised to stay in the name of jesus.
So, what do you think?
Scripture recognizes adultery and/or fornication (Matt. 5:32) as well as abandonment by an unbelieving partner (1 Cor. 7:10-15) as grounds for divorce.
There is no direct teaching in Scripture regarding remarriage after divorce. However, there is a strong implication in Jesus’ words in Matthew 19:9 that would allow the remarriage of one who has remained faithful, but whose spouse has been unfaithful to the marriage vow.
1 Corinthians 7
10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband.
11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If a brother has an unbelieving wife and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.
13 And if a woman has an unbelieving husband and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his believing wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
So .... it's about divorce .... but ..... separation " A wife must not separate from her husband*.
11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband.
In abuse cases they should separate. Now how long could that separation last? Until reconciliation occurs or death.
*Believing Husband - Is he in a believing state if he's being abusive? No Can he return to a believing state, yes ... and that would be reconciliation ... and that is demonstrated by time .... give it a lot of time.
It's very difficult .... separation verses divorce.
In abusive situations ... separate and the length of separation could be until death. If one commits adultery while separated and this often happens ... they are still without excuse... but then divorce is acceptable under that circumstance according to the Lord.