- Aug 30, 2020
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Greetings everyone, I am part of a local Christian young adult group. The group is not affiliated with any specific church and the leaders running it to do not have any pastoral training. It is more of a social/fellowship group. The group has always had age parameters associated with it but they are not enforced regularly and many people are allowed to be part of the group who are well past the limits. In addition to this being a structured group with structured events, there are also lots of connections to this group and many informal events occurring. If the leaders themselves lead/organize anything socially, it's impossible to know whether it's an official event for the group or not.
Recently, the group has started cracking down on the age limit as well for a handful of individuals who are socially awkward and may not fit the mold of the group well. For older females or older males who have social finesse, they are allowed to stay with the group.
Unfortunately, this has put me in a tough situation. This group is/was my social home and some of my closest friends are a part of it, along with many others that I've met over the years and formed smaller friendships with. However, after seeing the recent crackdowns on people who don't fit the mold of the group, my heart is no longer fully behind the group. In fact, I'm having a hard time even wanting to associate with the group at all, given the situation. The name of the group itself even bothers me due to the mental association in my mind now.
I've talked to leadership and they are unwilling to change their group's rules for how they deal with people aging out of the group. At this point, I'm really not sure what to do and am looking for any advice/thoughts. Thanks!
Recently, the group has started cracking down on the age limit as well for a handful of individuals who are socially awkward and may not fit the mold of the group well. For older females or older males who have social finesse, they are allowed to stay with the group.
Unfortunately, this has put me in a tough situation. This group is/was my social home and some of my closest friends are a part of it, along with many others that I've met over the years and formed smaller friendships with. However, after seeing the recent crackdowns on people who don't fit the mold of the group, my heart is no longer fully behind the group. In fact, I'm having a hard time even wanting to associate with the group at all, given the situation. The name of the group itself even bothers me due to the mental association in my mind now.
I've talked to leadership and they are unwilling to change their group's rules for how they deal with people aging out of the group. At this point, I'm really not sure what to do and am looking for any advice/thoughts. Thanks!